First, I'd not concentrate on the wattage ratings of the speakers, the max wattage is more a melting point than anything useful. Sensitivity of the speaker is a better indicator of amp use. I can't imagine why you couldn't use any external amp you want as long as the HK unit has pre-outs (and the output level of the avr and sensitivity of the amp are compatible). Not even sure how they would calculate "40-60%" of volume particularly. I generally find calling customer service at audio companies (especially a conglomerate like Samsung/HK) yields poor information, sort of like asking a best buy sales associate a technical question.
The mic for your older avr has its own calibration file, how closely that resembles that expected by a different avr or setup software....hard to know. I'd have asked in the first place if it was part of the sale of an avr as to what original accessories are on hand if I wanted to use that feature.....but how about looking for a used mic on fleabay?
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@M Code who is very familiar with those HK units can advise....