First Date Tips ... (advice please...)

[Midwesthonky]

So, I feel obligated to keep you guys updated for all your help...

She sent me a text message this morning saying she had a family emergency and had to fly home. Said she'd call when she gets there and was very sorry.

Give benefit of the doubt? Sketchy, eh?

I'm not too torn up, but, it is sketchy. My sister called me and I told her, she was like 'oh, yeah, uh huh.' haha.

Looks like the theater will get some use tonight.

That's a pretty strong excuse to pull if she wanted to get out of the date. So I suspect there be truth in it. Be patient. When she does call back, be polite, concerned and ask if she is ok and if there is anything you can do to help, even if it's just listening.

On the other hand...is there any photo evidence of you getting it on with some girl about 5'0", 232 lbs, wearing green makeup and a Star Trek alien outfit and you dressed as Captain Kirk posted on the internet? If so, then it could be an excuse to get out of the date.

 

[CaliHwyPatrol]

Good, that means you have plenty of time to screw up a few other first dates with people that don't matter. Go out and get some practice until she calls.

 

[majorloser]

Good, that means you have plenty of time to screw up a few other first dates with people that don't matter. Go out and get some practice until she calls.

Don't want to get rusty while your waiting.

 

[MidnightSensi]

Haha. Yeah, I'm not going to call her. If someone really has a family problem, there is no reason they'd want some new guy they met calling them anyways. I'm not like lovesick or anything, really the thread started as more of a general question and then it developed into a better story.

 

[Alex2507]

Something tells me that Sensi sees more @ss than a public toilet.
I say give this girl an honest chance.
Who knows? She might be his first ex-wife.

 

[MidnightSensi]

Something tells me that Sensi sees more @ss than a public toilet.
I say give this girl an honest chance.
Who knows? She might be his first ex-wife.

Haha, I generally go for hitting on every girl I think is hot, and eventually I'll get to bed one.... which actually works, but I end up with girls that I don't want to spend time with (outside of filling a need). I want to like... date, and do the 'first kiss,' and fall in love.... and I've recently realized I know nothing about that. (Sappy, I know)

I'll give her a chance, I'll let you guys know if she calls.

 

[jeffsg4mac]

I would not call her but a short text saying that you hope everything is OK with her family would certainly make it look like you care.

 

[Warpdrv]

I would not call her but a short text saying that you hope everything is OK with her family would certainly make it look like you care.

Agreed, If you haven't already sent your thoughts, do so... which I'm sure you have, but DO NOT contact her again...

If she really wants to see you again, she'll get back to ya.. if she doesn't - she has already made up her mind that agreeing to a date with you was on second thought, something she felt that was not something she wanted to do...

Keep in mind - If she's more than pleasing to the eye or even above average.... Women like that are CONSTANTLY and I mean Constantly hit on every freakin day of their lives - and some will just agree to a date just to be on the offensive and ward you off for the time being... seen it plenty of times.... to the point I rarely ever would hit on a hot chic. If they were interested in me - they would approach.... so I just never wasted my time - always worked to my benefit.

 

[MidnightSensi]

She called me today, I shouldn't have doubted (of course, I didn't say I did to her). She said she'd 'make it up to me' Then she texted me again later tonight to talk, because she knew I had a boring dinner. I think when she gets back we'll try again. I'm pretty stoked.

Cheers for all the advice.

I was thinking maybe on go 2 I take her someplace more casual on a weeknight.... like a nice place, but not super fancy... just trendy. And on a weeknight. So, no weekend date jitters...

Agreed, If you haven't already sent your thoughts, do so... which I'm sure you have, but DO NOT contact her again...

If she really wants to see you again, she'll get back to ya.. if she doesn't - she has already made up her mind that agreeing to a date with you was on second thought, something she felt that was not something she wanted to do...

Keep in mind - If she's more than pleasing to the eye or even above average.... Women like that are CONSTANTLY and I mean Constantly hit on every freakin day of their lives - and some will just agree to a date just to be on the offensive and ward you off for the time being... seen it plenty of times.... to the point I rarely ever would hit on a hot chic. If they were interested in me - they would approach.... so I just never wasted my time - always worked to my benefit.

She is really beautiful. But, the thing I've found about beautiful girls is that a lot of times they are kind of lonely. I think they don't get hit on as much as you think. I have never felt approaching a beautiful girl to be a waste of time, even if it doesn't work out, its always more fun than not trying. Usually, even if they aren't interested in you, they appreciate you having the balls to try. I've been turned down A LOT but I don't care Nothing to lose.

 

[Alex2507]

If they were interested in me - they would approach ...

We seem to have that in common. I have to beat them off with a stick.

How ever do you deal with the onslaught of *****?

 

[MidnightSensi]

Haha, yeah, doesn't work that way for me at least.

 

[gmichael]

She called me today, I shouldn't have doubted (of course, I didn't say I did to her). She said she'd 'make it up to me' Then she texted me again later tonight to talk, because she knew I had a boring dinner. I think when she gets back we'll try again. I'm pretty stoked.

Cheers for all the advice.

I was thinking maybe on go 2 I take her someplace more casual on a weeknight.... like a nice place, but not super fancy... just trendy. And on a weeknight. So, no weekend date jitters...

That's great. Good to see that she is interested. Seems like you have a good plan as well. Just enjoy each other's company and keep your eyes and ears open.

She is really beautiful. But, the thing I've found about beautiful girls is that a lot of times they are kind of lonely. I think they don't get hit on as much as you think. I have never felt approaching a beautiful girl to be a waste of time, even if it doesn't work out, its always more fun than not trying. Usually, even if they aren't interested in you, they appreciate you having the balls to try. I've been turned down A LOT but I don't care Nothing to lose.

I agree 100%. People would be shocked to find out how many hot girls don't get asked out because most guys are intimidated. And most of them will respond well (as long as you don't lay some stupid line on them). Even when it doesn't work out, you end up with a hot friend. Other girls will notice you spending time with hot babes and want to know you because of it. It's a win win!

 

[Chu Gai]

NSFW: http://www.mefeedia.com/movie/10876016

 

[highfigh]

That's great. Good to see that she is interested. Seems like you have a good plan as well. Just enjoy each other's company and keep your eyes and ears open.

I agree 100%. People would be shocked to find out how many hot girls don't get asked out because most guys are intimidated. And most of them will respond well (as long as you don't lay some stupid line on them). Even when it doesn't work out, you end up with a hot friend. Other girls will notice you spending time with hot babes and want to know you because of it. It's a win win!

Remember, for every really hot woman, there's at least one guy who's sick of putting up with her shyte.

 

[GO-NAD!]

Perhaps you should wear an eye patch. That way, if you get outa hand and she maces you, you'll still have one good eye to see the road when you're driving home. A friend of mine told me about that. Honest....

 

[gmichael]

Remember, for every really hot woman, there's at least one guy who's sick of putting up with her shyte.

True, but it's also true of the ugly ones. With all things being equal.....

 

[MidnightSensi]

Haha, yeah, all girls are a little nuts, but I never learn.

I responded to her text today saying I bet she looks cute.

 

[highfigh]

Haha, yeah, all girls are a little nuts, but I never learn.

I responded to her text today saying I bet she looks cute.

They all are, but we're guys and we never lern. Some are a lot nuts and it still doesn't matter.

The thing about that comment I posted about hot women is that it came from Charlie Sheen. He has had both of his ex-wives on his show, as his love interest. That guy is good, if he can pull that off.

 

[Davemcc]

I think this is great, the way it turned out. By effectively skipping the first date, you've gotten around the first date jitters yet you've accomplished the purpose of the first date. I mean, the real purpose of the first date was to make sure she liked you and wanted to see you again. The fact she called and arranged another date was the whole purpose of the first. So you can relax Sensi, it's all good.

 

[MidnightSensi]

I think this is great, the way it turned out. By effectively skipping the first date, you've gotten around the first date jitters yet you've accomplished the purpose of the first date. I mean, the real purpose of the first date was to make sure she liked you and wanted to see you again. The fact she called and arranged another date was the whole purpose of the first. So you can relax Sensi, it's all good.

I missed your post, but it is funny, that it actually worked out well that way. I guess one of the first date concerns is having nothing to talk about, and between her not making it and our next date, we talked on the phone a few times... so by the time we actually had a date, we were full of conversations and could skip the small talk. It actually might be budding into a relationship.

I called the concierge at American Express last night and sent her flowers for today, which made me think of this thread. I think she'll like 'em (for 80 bucks hopefully they send a damn nice looking set).

I figured I owed you guys the update anyways, since you guys helped.


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So, more advice.... dinner and a movie or movie then dinner? I know that date is played out, but, well, I like movies....