So now we have to member reporting this problem.
I think you both have the wrong speakers for your application. I don't think a sub setting at 90 Hz will solve your problem. Only drastically reducing the volume you play them at will.
Here is why. I have taken a closer look at the problem.
These speakers only have 6.5 inch woofers, yet the F3 is 24 Hz. Now there is ALWAYS in inverse relationship between bass extension and efficiency.
Now the lack if efficiency is hidden by the sensitivity spec of 2.83 volt one meter. Now Home theater magazine measured the sensitivity at 86.4 db 2.83 volts 1 meter and not the specified 89 db 2.83 volts 1 meter.
However they also measured the impedance of the speakers and got this.
At around 100 Hz the impedance is 2.4 ohms and does not even rise to 4 ohms until 500 Hz. This is the range where all the power of music is, not in sub range. In sub range the impedance is actually quite high due to the tuning peaks.
So in fact if you take this data and recalculate sensitivity at 1 watt 1 meter, then these speakers are in fact only 80 db 1 watt 1 meter. What this means is that these voice coils will be taking huge amounts of power in the 100 Hz to 500 Hz range, and therefore heating.
Now a sub will only help prevent woofer failure if the failure is due to over excursion. If it is thermal damage a subs ability to prevent damage is minimal.
Now this is a picture of the cone VC former and coil from the B & W site.
The notable feature is that the VC former is very long and the coil wound right to the lower edge of the former. So this VC is deep in the speaker pole gap, what is known as under slung. This I'm sure has been done for linearity, I'm certain, given the enormous excursion that will be required of these woofers to have an F3 of 24 Hz! The downside is increased heat build up.
So I would have a very high degree of confidence indeed that both of you are over heating the voice coils and the lower turns are coming loose and dropping into the pole gap and causing your problem. Given the design of the VC former I feel it is highly unlikely that the VC former is leaving the pole gap, and casing mechanical damage.
Your solutions are: -
1). Turn the volume down a lot.
2). Change your choice of program and in particular avoid dub step and may be try Mozart, Beethoven, Bach etc. These are British designed speakers and will be primarily designed with the classical music lover in mind.
3). If you are using Audyssey Dynamic Eq, turn it off, as it adds a crazy and unpleasant bass boost.
Your only other option is to change to cruder and more robust speakers.