You know, all this reminds back about 10 years ago when I was running a decent sized marketing company of about 350 people. I allowed our HR people to get involved with hiring convicted individuals who were in a program to get into the business world.
We hired this guy Russell, a black guy, who had a long criminal history, but oddly enough, came from a strong family background. His father a doctor and he had a stay at home mom. Yet, despite the priviledged life he had, he chose crime.
Anyway, he would often times come into my office to speak with me. I had an open door policy and anyone was allowed to come see me to talk about whatever it was that was on their mind. I had good conversations with Russell. He wasn't the greatest employee though despite being pretty damn smart. He was just lazy and made conscience decisions to do the exact opposite of what he should. Everytime his manager would try to discusse things with him, he brought up the race card and felt hassled by the man. I always found this odd as 3 of my 5 managers of his area were actually black.
Eventually, we had to let him go. I remember he came to my office with a huge chip on shoulder, not at all willing to accept any responsibility. I remember the next couple of lines verbatim:
Russ: Dude you're dogging me because I'm black. You just see me as a n**ger, nothing more. You firing me because I'm black.
Me: No Russ, I'm firing you because you're an ********* And being an ********* transends being black or being a woman, or any other excuse people think they get fired for.
It was odd to me because I never thought of Russ as a black guy really. I never thought to myself when I took that particular management team out for dinner that I'm out having drinks with three black guys, a white guy, and a pasty white Scottish guy that I could barely understand. They were just my employees and more importantly my friends. It's not until Russ made such a big deal about him being black that I thought about him being black. He went from being just an ********* to a black ********* because that's how he wanted to be seen... basically how he forced me to see him.