I really like where you're headed with this. I like an emphasis on bass in my music playback as well. This said, I'm using project/kit speakers for my system. They are a pair of sealed Zaph Audio ZRT sealed 2 ways and a pair of 2cu ft cabs with TC Sounds Epic 12" subs in them. The subs definitely cannot plumb the depths of the sea, but they do 40Hz with authority in my 22x15 room. Amplification is a Parasound A23 for the sats, and a Crest Audio CA6 for the subs.
Crossing subs over high can work in many systems. Just think of the crossover point of many popular 3 ways designs when they low pass their woofers. For example, the BW 800s low pass their woofer/subs at 350Hz. A sub with truly low inductance can perform that task rather well. Freeing up the magical midrange to swing with agility, and not compete with those high excursion frequencies, so to speak.
I use a dbx Driverack 260 for my speaker processing, and I bet that since your subs have some DSP built in, they are probably rocking the house at the higher frequencies if they are intended as such.
Edit: This said, I use an xover point of 96.4Hz on the sats and 81.1 on the subs with 24dB slopes. Toss in room interaction, and I get a fairly flat FR from this setup, about 4dB from 40Hz-10k or so...with PEQ.
I just dropped in Sting's "The Soul Cages" CD, and played "Why Should I Cry For You". Fantastic...
Keep experimenting, that's the great thing about this hobby!