A cool little story.

[avaserfi]

Were not spending as much time together as we used to now that he has discovered girls,but im ok with that

Natural progression of the father-son relationship, but remember don't let him pimp himself out too much .

 

[highfihoney]

You and your wife deserve a lot of credit for raising such a good son.
To have a child at that age, understand and appreciate all the hard work you've done, is very rare.
Congratulations to you and Mrs. Highfi.

Rick

Thanks Rick,i think what makes my kids realize how good they have it is one of my son's close friends,his dad is a couch potato that only works a few weeks out of the year & his mother spends all her time & money at the casinos,leaving him with us to raise about 5 days a week,he's a good kid so we dont mind but his parents are pure s#!t.

He's been with us so much over the last few years when he does go back home to his real family for a day or two he calls my wife up & ask's her if he can come back home to our house,he calls my wife mom & me dad.

 

[highfihoney]

Wow. That's pretty damn cool. I'm a guy that doesn't like kids or plan on ever having any, and that still touched me. Good job raising your kid.

Thanks,im not so sure any parent was super duper in love with the idea of having kid,its scary stuff at firsts but it quickly turns out where having them was the best thing a person could ever do,it was for us.

 

[highfihoney]

That is one awesome letter HH. Being raised with no dad around me, makes me jealous...nahh..j/k. I am happy with my mom. He is one lucky boy and you are one kick a!# dad. Nevertheless, it makes me wanting to be a father (I got no kids yet)..You are the pride of the fathers here HH.

Thanks,the letter made my wife want to have another kid,good thing one of us is thinking with the big head

 

[mike c]

how many kids you have HH? I'm thinking I don't want a second.

 

[highfihoney]

how many kids you have HH? I'm thinking I don't want a second.

Hmmm,i never know how to answer that question,we have 3 son's but it's not as simple as that,we lost one of our son's a few years back,after his death we both couldnt figure out what to say when we were asked how many kid's we have,if we said 2 we felt like we were forgetting about him, if we said 3 most people asked where the 3rd son was,then we had to explain what happened,explaining,talking & dwelling on his death nearly killed my wife & destroyed her teaching career.Now we say we have 3 children & if asked where the 3rd is we just say he's not living at home anymore.

Dont be so sure that you only want one child just yet,things change as time goes on,the older they get the more fun it is being a parent,we planned our 1st child & thought that would be it,then a few years later we decided on having another,then 18 months after the 2nd kid was born we jumped in with both feet & had the 3rd.

 

[mike c]

Hmmm,i never know how to answer that question,we have 3 son's but it's not as simple as that,we lost one of our son's a few years back,after his death we both couldnt figure out what to say when we were asked how many kid's we have,if we said 2 we felt like we were forgetting about him, if we said 3 most people asked where the 3rd son was,then we had to explain what happened,explaining,talking & dwelling on his death nearly killed my wife & destroyed her teaching career.Now we say we have 3 children & if asked where the 3rd is we just say he's not living at home anymore.

Dont be so sure that you only want one child just yet,things change as time goes on,the older they get the more fun it is being a parent,we planned our 1st child & thought that would be it,then a few years later we decided on having another,then 18 months after the 2nd kid was born we jumped in with both feet & had the 3rd.

thanks for sharing that...

I realize that it's normal for new parents to NOT want a follow up kid ... but tell me about the WHEN you want a second kid, what do you feel? why do you want a second kid?

right now the wife's thinking that our son would be lonely without a sibling.

 

[highfihoney]

thanks for sharing that...

I realize that it's normal for new parents to NOT want a follow up kid ... but tell me about the WHEN you want a second kid, what do you feel? why do you want a second kid?

right now the wife's thinking that our son would be lonely without a sibling.

Hi mike,i forgot about this thread

Anyhow your wife is right,with most parents i know that have multiple kids thats how the conversation about having another kid starts,it did with us also.

With us,after we started talking about having another kid i was the show stopper,it wasn't till the baby got a bit older & i was able to have fun with him,go places & do stuff with him, then it became real fun to be a dad & i wanted another kid too,turned out to be the best decision for us,it just felt right,same thing with the 3rd kid,all it took was to start talking about it then before either of us knew we were planning for another son,again it just felt right.

I know it sounds pretty flimsy but as a parent you'll know when & if you guy's are ready for another kid,one thing a can tell you for sure is the older they get the more fun it is being with them,watching them use what you taught them in their daily lives is a kick a$$ feeling,plus it becomes more of a real friendship than a parent child relationship.

 

[MDS]

I'm a non-parent but I do have opinions on whether you should have a second child. I say if you do don't wait too long. Siblings that are fairly close in age (couple of years) bond and become friends. Siblings that are many many years apart often don't bond in the same way.

My opinion is based on the fact that my sister and I are only 11 months apart and have always had a close relationship. My parents like to say that we raised each other. I have many old (as in known them since I was a baby) friends that are similar and are also close with their siblings. I also know some that are far apart in age and really don't hang with their siblings much.

There is no guarantee of course, but closer in age seems to be better.

 

[Davemcc]

Hi-Fi,

The more I get to know you, the more I think of the story "Candide, or Optimism" by Voltaire. No, that's not an insult. It's worth a read if you can find a copy. Despite being first published in 1759, it's a light, easy read and a lot of fun. I think you would enjoy it.

 

[chadnliz]

Hey Mike, as soon as I read a few lines I know it was you from our talks, its your old pal Chad from Audiogon, you should give me a call when you have time, my folks bought me a house and I finally have a MAN CAVE, still same old gear but its so much better sounding now, PM me if you have time, and I hope all is well..........I think I still have those Alex Harvey Bootlegs for you!
Chad

 

[highfihoney]

Hi Chad,do i know you Didnt i sell you a cd player or a turntable or a widget Man i must be gettin old & slow

Just kidding Chad,how's it been,glad to hear you finally got a bigger house,i dont know if i ever told you my first name or not but my first name is Levi,i also have a son named after me,the one who wrote the school report naming me as his hero,the lil s#!t

He brought his report home along with a letter from his teacher,my wife's taking it to a frame shop to get both of them framed for me,im so damm proud of that report i cant stop smiling every time i think about it.

Ill shoot you a pm & shoot the s#!t.

Levi.