I always enjoy posts like yours. It is great to hear someone's excitement and thrill with new gear.
However, I do agree that the reality is there is probably little or no actual difference (once you level match).
A good salesman can let you hear a system then talk up something like $300 power cable and if you don't know enough about electricity and they do a good enough job of sharing their "excitement" of what a good product it is and what you are going to hear, it is easy for us people to hear exactly what he said we would.
The thing is our perceptions are so easily altered that you are liable to experience a wide array despite the actual sound being the same.
Some of my favorite examples/analogies are:
When I was a kid and got PF Flyers (brand/style of tennis shoes if you are young),I really could run faster and jump higher, just like the commercials said I would.
I have caught myself believing that cleaning the dust out of my old vintage amp made it sound better (it wasn't that bad). I realized that didn't really make sense, but the fact that I had invested ~45 minutes caring for my amp and felt good about it, predispositioned me to appreciate the sound.
A song sounds better if I have been wanting/anticipating hearing it on my way home.
My system almost always sounds better first thing in the morning (when I have a "fresh" set of ears)!
Assuming they kiss the same, kissing an attractive (however you want to define attractive) woman is more enjoyable than an unattractive woman. This is probably the most obvious example of how easily swayed our perceptions our!
Is it unreasonable to expect that sexy $5000 Macintosh amp with the big blue meters to sound better than our meager AVR (even if it does not)?