Both my older and younger (3 years either way) are complete and utter fuckups. We are talking 50 and 45. Both have non-stop pawed at my parents for everything from $$, to use the laundry, rides\/borrow cars, day care, move back in etc...\n\nThe 50 year old is the worse of the two and anyone with half a brain could see this train wreck happening since age 12. Absolutely didn't like anyone telling him what to do, especially women. Multiple kids, multiple moms, wouldn't pay child support and even quit jobs if his pay was garnished. FF a few decades and diagnosed with diabetes that he won't manage and most certainly the methamphetamine use has led to his other health problems that the latest stay in hospital with a diagnoses of weakened heart muscle. Stayed with my parents on and off and the longest stint was 9 months and WOULD NOT GET A JOB! Lost 4 cars in a row (won't keep insurance, won't keep a license, won't plate \/ tag properly) and NOW he's back today after hospital moving in. \n\nThis is where I'm stuck. where does compassion and not putting up with this poop end? I can't see turning my back on a family member like this but I also can't see the enabling and the allowance of disrupting. Any thing like I feel that I could do would just be enabling. I want to give him a piece of my mind but he's never listened to anyone...\n\nSitting here and wondering how I made a successful life, stable marriage, nice things, savings, with the same upbringing, same two parents, same opportunities. \n\nFrustrated and concerned for my parents.