First Date Tips ... (advice please...)

[MidnightSensi]

So, I'm a recent college grad, and in college dating goes a bit different than in the real world (like, you meet in groups). I need some advice now that I'm in traditional dating...

So I know the guy always picks the girl up, and pays, the first date. She is out of the way, but, I think having her drive would be pretty lame. Am I right?

Flowers? Too soon? We sorta know eachother, been clubbing before (I didn't meet her in a club though), but do you bring flowers to a first 'proper' date?

What about conversation? Any 'if in awkward silence' tips?

After lots of college experience, I feel like real world dating is a mystery to me. Suddenly I see why people read those magazines that say s**t like '10 First Date Tips'

Any general advice? (Other than don't show her my soundsystem)

 

[mike c]

Any general advice? (Other than don't show her my soundsystem)

that's exactly what i was thinking of posting.

umm, don't mention audioholics or other online forums

 

[STRONGBADF1]

Be yourself. Really.

I would not give her flowers personally but driving & buying & holding doors is mandatory IMO. Ask about her and then listen. Don't ramble on about yourself.
common sense really.

Good luck.

 

[j_garcia]

If that wasn't clear: be yourself. Be honest to the extent that you are comfortable with divulging info, don't ask heavy questions, and just let it be what it is. If it seems like both are interested then you can start pushing those buttons.

 

[majorloser]

1. Don't get into specifics about what you do. Normal humans don't want to know what a materials engineer does.
2. Unless she's a fellow geek, don't talk about computers and audio equipment.
3. Always smile. Women hate guys who seem hostile and confrontational.
4. Unless your at dinner ordering the wine, let her choose what she wants to drink. Ordering shots of tequilla might not be wise. But if she orders it GET READY TO PARTY!
5. Don't leave a box of condoms in your glove compartment. She'll look.
6. Be yourself. No sense starting a lie you might get stuck trying to support.
7. Lastly, have fun. If it doesn't work out, oh well.

 

[chris357]

1. Don't get into specifics about what you do. Normal humans don't want to know what a materials engineer does.
2. Unless she's a fellow geek, don't talk about computers and audio equipment.
3. Always smile. Women hate guys who seem hostile and confrontational.
4. Unless your at dinner ordering the wine, let her choose what she wants to drink. Ordering shots of tequilla might not be wise. But if she orders it GET READY TO PARTY!
5. Don't leave a box of condoms in your glove compartment. She'll look.
6. Be yourself. No sense starting a lie you might get stuck trying to support.
7. Lastly, have fun. If it doesn't work out, oh well.

damn, i wish I had this website when I was 22

 

[adwilk]

I apologize to you if I don't seem real eager to jump into a forced awkward intimate situation that people like to call dating. I don't like the feeling. You're sitting there, you're wondering do I have food on my face, am I eating, am I talking too much, are they talking enough, am I interested I'm not really interested, should I play like I'm interested but I'm not that interested but I think she might be interested but do I want to be interested but now she's not interested? So all of the sudden I'm getting, I'm starting to get interested... And when am I supposed to kiss her? Do I have to wait for the door cause then it's awkward, it's like well goodnight. Do you do like that ***-out hug? Where you like, you hug each other like this and your *** sticks out cause you're trying not to get too close or do you just go right in and kiss them on the lips or don't kiss them at all? It's very difficult trying to read the situation. And all the while you're just really wondering are we gonna get hopped up enough to make some bad decisions? Perhaps play a little game called "just the tip". Just for a second, just to see how it feels. Or, ouch, ouch you're on my hair.

 

[MidnightSensi]

that's exactly what i was thinking of posting.

umm, don't mention audioholics or other online forums

Haha, the only problem I have is if I do take her home...well... my system is kind of the elephant in the living room...

As far as audio, I usually leave that to 'what kind of music do you like?' and not much beyond that.

She does know I'm into sound though, because of being in the club...

Be yourself. Really.

I would not give her flowers personally but driving & buying & holding doors is mandatory IMO. Ask about her and then listen. Don't ramble on about yourself.
common sense really.

Good luck.

Yeah, the flowers are borderline. I've always heard you should. Kinda mixed on that.

If that wasn't clear: be yourself. Be honest to the extent that you are comfortable with divulging info, don't ask heavy questions, and just let it be what it is. If it seems like both are interested then you can start pushing those buttons.

Cheers.

1. Don't get into specifics about what you do. Normal humans don't want to know what a materials engineer does.

K.

1. Unless she's a fellow geek, don't talk about computers and audio equipment.

K.

1. Don't leave a box of condoms in your glove compartment. She'll look.

Why is that? Your right too. What is it with women and glove compartments?

1. Be yourself. No sense starting a lie you might get stuck trying to support.

Yeah.

2. Lastly, have fun. If it doesn't work out, oh well.

Thanks man.

 

[dkane360]

Bring mints or gum lol

 

[Shock]

Really the only thing you need is confidence, nothing else matters.

If you want to talk geek, then talk geek. Don't hold back because you're afraid she's going to think you're a loser or something. You said you hung out with her before so she already knows the basic stuff about you I would assume. I can remember back to a first date of my own where I just decided I was going to talk about Star Trek. Now I don't look like a geek or a nerd, but Lord knows I am. I didn't hit "warp factor" that first date, but I beamed her into my quarters soon after. ( Star Trek inuendo is awesome )

If you make the date all about her, you won't see another one. Remember girls do NOT like nice guys. They don't want to be treated like princess'. I mean, don't act like she's not important, but don't over think it. You're there to have fun too, and if she can't contribute anything to the date she's really not worth your time.

This isn't highschool, there's really no time for games.

Last tip, if there is a long period of awkward silence don't say "Awkward silence....", just trust me on this one. Honestly, if the date is going well there shouldn't be any awkward silence. So if there is at that point I guess there's really nothing wrong you can say.

 

[adwilk]

Seriously though, good luck man.

DO:
Be yourself
Order her food, preferably a small side salad with dressing on the side.
Play Rick Astley "Never gonna give you up" on the way to the restaurant.
Flirt obnoxiously with the hostess
"Forget" your wallet
Push the discussion to detailing her sexual encounters

DONT
Take "no" for an answer.


Just be yourself, dude. You seem to have a fair amount of interests and are intelligent. If you're worried about conversation, memorize a few humorous questions to ask if the conversation gets slow. IE, what kind of puppies do you hate the most? Thats just one example.

 

[Shock]

Just be yourself, dude. You seem to have a fair amount of interests and are intelligent. If you're worried about conversation, memorize a few humorous questions to ask if the conversation gets slow. IE, what kind of puppies do you hate the most? Thats just one example.

I agree with everything except for the puppies thing. That's a trick question....every puppy is awesome.

 

[Wannabubble]

Best Advice: Be yourself

Also the 4 Fs:

Friends
Family (not future family, brothers/sisters etc)
Favorites
Firsts

These are GREAT conversation starters

 

[STRONGBADF1]

Don't bring up Alex.

 

[Stereodude]

No flowers, and if there's some dead air in your conversation just ask her something about her. Women love to talk about themselves and like a good listener, so that's a win-win.

Oh, and asking a bunch of raging audio enthusiasts for dating advice might not be the best strategy.

 

[CaliHwyPatrol]

And for God's sake, compliment her on how good she looks. If she's going to go to the trouble to get ready for this, you damn well better let her know you noticed. I used to be shy, then I dropped my balls and realized doing stuff like that goes a loooooong way.

Oh, and make her smile, she wants you to. So do it.

EDIT: No flowers.

 

[CaliHwyPatrol]

No flowers, and if there's some dead air in your conversation just ask her something about her. Women love to talk about themselves and like a good listener, so that's a win-win.

Oh, and asking a bunch of raging audio enthusiasts for dating advice might not be the best strategy.

I have more girls than I know what to do with...

 

[Shock]

I have more girls than I know what to do with...

After a while they're going to realize you don't plan on paying them though.

Oh snappity snap snap.

 

[gene]

Take her to a movie that has lots of gratuitous sex scenes. I took a girl to see "Devils Advocate" on our first date. I had no idea there was a girl on girl sex scene involving a woman and her daughter. I figured I was doomed. She liked the movie and wasn't offended. 2 1/2 years later I married her

 

[MidnightSensi]

Haha, thanks guys.

Bring mints or gum lol

Yeah.

If you make the date all about her, you won't see another one. Remember girls do NOT like nice guys. They don't want to be treated like princess'. I mean, don't act like she's not important, but don't over think it. You're there to have fun too, and if she can't contribute anything to the date she's really not worth your time.

This isn't highschool, there's really no time for games.

Last tip, if there is a long period of awkward silence don't say "Awkward silence....", just trust me on this one. Honestly, if the date is going well there shouldn't be any awkward silence. So if there is at that point I guess there's really nothing wrong you can say.

Nod.

Just be yourself, dude. You seem to have a fair amount of interests and are intelligent. If you're worried about conversation, memorize a few humorous questions to ask if the conversation gets slow. IE, what kind of puppies do you hate the most? Thats just one example.

Haha, yeah, I know I'm overthinking it. But, I guess the thing I'm a bit lost about are the 'conventions' of regular dating. See, like 'no flowers' seems to be the vote...so, I was 50-50 on that. You guys saved me.

No flowers, and if there's some dead air in your conversation just ask her something about her. Women love to talk about themselves and like a good listener, so that's a win-win.

Oh, and asking a bunch of raging audio enthusiasts for dating advice might not be the best strategy.

Okay, no flowers.

I know, but, the first friend I asked responded 'Is she dfa?' (Down for an@l, if you don't speak pervert). The second asked 'How big are her t*ts?'

And for God's sake, compliment her on how good she looks. If she's going to go to the trouble to get ready for this, you damn well better let her know you noticed. I used to be shy, then I dropped my balls and realized doing stuff like that goes a loooooong way.

Oh, and make her smile, she wants you to. So do it.

EDIT: No flowers.

Yeah, I'm good with the compliments.

They do go through a lot getting ready, way more than us anyways.