Maybe I mean it more as an intent of purpose rather than a solution, the theory of a valved mask protects the wearer. You all mean well but I wonder if our seniors and infirmed would sacrifice some safety for some time with their family. I think that’s what people mean when they say the cure may be worse than the disease.
I know you're simply thinking of people that haven't been able to see their families, but this line of thinking (albeit, compassionate from you) is where a lot of the issues we are seeing come from.
You aren't advocating for not wearing masks at all. That's obvious. However, saying someone can wear a valve mask that lets them breath out potentially harmful particles while protecting themselves when around "people that aren't as prone to die" is why so many more are dying or getting infected that shouldn't be. The purpose of the masks is to protect the other people from the mask wearer's potential "germs". While some masks also protect the wearer, that's not the main intent of the masks for this purpose.
Here's why. If a person wants to see their grandkids great. We'll use my grandmother (87) as that person. She isn't in a nursing home or any sort of home, but let's say she is for this argument. She wants to see me and her great-grandkids and my parents want to see their kid and grandkids. Well, my parents are in the age range where if they get it, they might be toast. My mom has an auto-immune disorder so no vaccine for her.
We all wear masks when out around non-family. For the folks in my house, that's almost never. Kids aren't in school learning so that is a big layer of protection as they are tiny disease spreaders even without COVID. So, if great-grandma comes over wearing proposed valve mask and everyone else is safe and wears their masks there is still a risk of infection. Not that great-grandmother will get it, but spread it to everyone else. Her kids, her grandkids, her great-grandkids. Great grandma could be asymptomatic and have no idea.
So that ONE visit to help her mental health about being lonely during this time could potentially infect me, my kids, and my parents. Who could then spread to to all sorts of people (maybe less so since they wear masks, but still). This could potentially kill both my parents and leave me and my wife with life long issues and maybe my kids too.
If we think of this whole issue like that, then that risk isn't' worth it one bit. Not even close. HOWEVER, if we can get great grandma a mask that protects her AND everyone around her, that risk is very minimal. That's how we need to look at things.
So when people seem to go off the rails saying people with your logic (again, compassionate, heart in the right place) saying you're anti science and you are thinking "how the hell could they think that?" Now you know why. I know (especially from your responses after) that you aren't anti science and are just trying to think of ways to keep certain folks safe, but also try to help their happiness, but there are things you may not have thought of. Nothing wrong with that, but that's why we need to listen to folks that know more about this stuff than us (the CDC, and numerous other organizations). They say a certain type of mask is bad, OK, let's find one that isn't.
We have to think critically and remove emotion from this (this is for people in general) and rely on experts to tell us the best path forward. Don't let the fact that information may change sway you toward thinking the experts don't know what they're doing, that may just mean the experts learned something that mad them change their thinking.
Too many things in this country are centered on how it affects "ME" instead of how it affects "US". We don't think enough about each other, but instead focus on what we want and how it affects us if we don't get it. We've got to start thinking like a nation as a whole and not let this "personal freedom" nonsense get in the way of us coming out of this on the other side. Again, this is directed to nobody in particular, just venting.