With my own daughter, I noticed through that age that she suppressed a lot of her own unique wit and individuality (which I cherished). I asked her about it and she said that people at school were just mean and it was easiest to just blend in. It kind of broke my heart to hear this from her, but I thought about it and had to reluctantly agree with her. All I could do was assure her that somewhere around being a HS Jr to college, her unique perspective would be viewed favorably as creative individuality (and, happily it did work out that way).\nMaybe I should have, instead, encouraged her to swim against the current, but I have seen how the middle school kids (especially girls) will pile on!Interesting that you mentioned that about your daughter. A number of years ago, when I ran the neighborhood swim team, I got in a long conversation with a neighbor about daughters. My daughter was in 7th grade, and his was in 8th grade. He suggested a book, which I got & read, Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher. It opened my eyes. I'm glad to see it's still in print.\nhttps:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Reviving-Ophelia-Saving-Selves-Adolescent\/dp\/1594481881\nI know your daughter is older now, and safely past that vulnerable age. But if anyone reading this has a daughter, age 10-14, and if they think they remember what it was like back when they were young. They should run to get a copy of this book.