You'll certainly want to make sure that you have your bass management all working correctly before you evaluate the sub
I've had a lot of issues with getting bass management to work the way it's supposed to with several receivers in the past. You are SUPPOSED to be able to set all of your speakers to "small" and select your cross-over frequency (typically 80Hz). What is SUPPOSED to happen is that all of the bass from all of the speakers PLUS the dedicated LFE channel get sent to the subwoofer output.
However, I've found that this is not always the case. What I've found often happens is that a great deal of the bass is mixed into the Front L/R channels. And with the Front L/R channels set to "small" and the subwoofer set to "on", the bass from the Front L/R channels does NOT get sent to the subwoofer output the way it is supposed to for some reason!
I've never been able to figure out why this happens with some receivers. And it isn't all receivers or even all receivers from a certain brand. It just seems to be a weird hit-or-miss problem and I've no idea why.
The disc and scene I always use to test things is the original DVD release of The Matrix (the one that came in the cardboard case rather than a standard plastic one. On that release, if you play the "lobby shootout" scene, that really memorable bass line in the music is mixed into the Front L/R speaker channels and NOT into the LFE. Only the impacts of the gunfire are mixed into the dedicated LFE channel. So it's really easy to tell if the bass management is working the way it's supposed to! If all is well, you hear that bass line in the music plus get all the chest-hitting impacts of the gunfire. If it is NOT working properly, you get the gunfire, but the bass line in the music is WAY too quiet.
There are a couple of ways to fix this. But with large, bass capable front speaker like the Monitor 11, it isn't quite as easy sometimes. The easy solution is to set your subwooofer's output on the receiver to "double bass". With that setting, the subwoofer gets sent the LFE channel and it also gets sent the bass information from the Front L/R channels. Some receivers allow you to set the subwoofer to "double bass" even with the Front L/R channels set to "small". If you are able to do that on your Onkyo 809, DO SO! That will allow you to still filter out the bass from your Monitor 11 Front L/R speakers, but it will send ALL of the bass to your subwoofer - as it should!
Most of the time though, "double bass" for the subwoofer requires you to set your Front L/R speakers to "large". And this can be a problem because now your Front L/R speakers are being sent a full range signal. The subwoofer is getting the LFE channel. The subwoofer is also getting the bass from the Front L/R speakers - all of which is good. But the Front L/R speakers are ALSO getting the bass - hence the "double bass" name. This can sometimes be problematic because you'll now get cancellations between the bass coming from the speakers and the bass coming from the subwoofer. With some careful placement and tuning of the EQ, you can sometimes work it out. But it's less than ideal. Especially if the bass capabilities of your speakers and sub are not a particularly similar match.
Another problem that often crops up is when you are switching between digital surround sound for movies and stereo playback for music. For what ever reason, many receivers screw up the bass management. You'll get everything working nicely for surround sound, but then you'll switch over to stereo for music and suddenly your subwoofer is WAY too loud. Again, I don't know WHY this happens, I just know that it often does
So I've been using a solution that always words, but it requires the use of an external amp for your Front L/R speakers!
What I do is set the subwoofer to "off" in the receiver. And I set the Front L/R speakers to "large". With the subwoofer set to "off", ALL of the bass - from all of the speakers that are set to "small" as well as the LFE - gets routed to the Front L/R channels. I have never come across a receiver that fails to route the LFE to the Front L/R channels when the subwoofer is set to "off", so - fingers crossed - that doesn't seem to ever be an issue.
With the PC13-Ultra and its particular 1000 Watt Sledge amp, you actually get a PERFECT solution if you do things this way. The 1000 Watt Sledge amp has the ideal settings available. Here's what you do:
You use your Front L/R pre-outs from your 809 and connect those to the red/white IN connections on your PC13-Ultra. In the 809 receiver, you set the subwoofer to "off" and the Front L/R speakers to "large".
Now, in the PC13-Ultra menu, you're going to use the built-in low pass filter and high pass filter - you can read the full instructions in the PC13-Ultra's user manual which is available at SVSound.com in the "Document Library" section.
You will want to set the high pass filter and low pass filter to the same frequency - typically 80Hz, although with bass capable speakers like the Monitor 11, you could use the 63Hz setting if you like. The important part is to set the slope for BOTH filters to 24dB/octave.
Now what you do is connect the outputs on the PC13-Ultra to an external amp that will power the Front L/R speakers. Personally, I like to use external amps for the front three speakers (left/center/right) anyway

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With the subwoofer connected this way, you get the PERFECT bass setup IMO. One of the problems with most setups is the way that the cross-over in receivers work, even if they're doing everything correctly, which they don't always do! With almost all receivers these days, they use a 24dB/octave low pass filter slope on the subwoofer - which is fine, but they use a 12dB/octave high pass filter on the speakers. The way it is SUPPOSED to work is that your speakers are supposedly going to have a 12dB/octave roll-off of their own. Such would be the case with sealed front speakers that don't have any additional filtering on the low end. It's also the case with THX certified speakers - which is where this particular combination of slopes comes from!
So the idea is that the 12dB/octave slope applied by the receiver combines with the natural 12dB/octave slope of your speakers to give you the desired 24dB/octave slope. But in the real world, very few speakers are actually designed this way!
So instead, you wind up with one of two scenarios: either you set the receiver's cross-over point to the point where your speakers naturally start to roll-off - in which case, you usually get too steep of a slope because most speakers are either ported (in which case they already have a 24dB/octave slope or steeper), or they are sealed, but have an additional filter already applied in order to protect the driver from trying to produce too much bass. Or the second setup happens where you cross-over the speaker above where the speaker naturally starts to roll off, in which case, you get too shallow of a slope because the only slope is coming from the 12dB/octave filter being applied by the receiver.
Either way, you're not getting the intended Linkwitz-Riley cross-over in which the subwoofer is sloping off at 24dB/octave on its high end and the speakers are sloping off at 24dB/octave on their low end, with both the subwoofer and speakers being -3dB at the selected cross-over frequency so that when they sum together, you get a perfectly flat frequency response all the way through!
So basically, if you simply send the FULL audio signal to the PC13-Ultra, it has all the filters necessary to implement a PERFECT cross-over. Personally, I use 80Hz regardless. I know there are many people who say they prefer to use a lower cross-over frequency if they can. In my experience, I think the reason they prefer that is because they've only ever heard cross-overs where the slopes are not what they are meant to be - due to all the reasons that I've detailed above. When you have the correct slopes on both the subwoofer and speakers, the 80Hz cross-over point works. The other reason is because many speakers can play flat to below 80Hz, but most start to roll off somewhere below 80Hz. Your Monitor 11 speakers claim a -2dB point at 42Hz, which is unusually low. If that's correct, it means the speakers only start to roll-off at about 50-55Hz, so with speakers like that, you really could use a lower cross-over frequency if you want to. But, on the other hand, with those speakers, there's virtually no doubt that they can play flat to below 80Hz. So if you set the cross-over to 80Hz and use the perfect 24dB/octave slopes of your PC13-Ultra, you can really get the ideal slopes coming from both your subwoofer and speakers, and you can enjoy the blend between subwoofer and speakers EXACTLY the way it was intended to be heard!
Now, with all of that said, doing things that way DOES require more money in the for of external amps for at least your Front L/R speakers. So perhaps just think of it as a potential future upgrade if you don't have the funds right now

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Check to see if your 809 will allow you to set your Front L/R speakers to "small" while setting your subwoofer to "double bass". If you can, that's the next best setting. If it forces you to set your speakers to "large" in order to select "double bass" for your subwoofer, then it's going to be trickier. Right now, it sounds as though you probably just went with the default settings, which are Front L/R speakers as "small" and subwoofer as "on". And it sounds as though you're getting the problem that I've run across where the bass from the Front L/R channels is NOT getting routed to the subwoofer the way it is supposed to. Hopefully, one of the methods that I've written here will work for you!