My Grandma is dying and it stinks.

[lsiberian]

She's really been suffering for several months now, but it's take a severe turn for the worse and everyone is making their peace with her. It's hard enough that she's dying, but seeing her in immense pain and discomfort is just hard.

Keep our family in your prayers. This will be my first grandparent to lose and it's starting to really hit me. She was the one who inspired me to become a minister so we are very close.

 

[XEagleDriver]

Isiberian,

My condolences on your Grandmother's situation, I wish you both as much peace and time together as possible.

Having my father die last December, I empathize with what you are going through--it sucks.

XEagleDriver

 

[Patrukas777]

I'm sorry for what you are going through. My prayers will be with her and your family. God bless

 

[highfigh]

I would talk to the doctors so they can make her comfortable. Then, take comfort in the fact that you have had a good relationship with her for so long. It's never a good thing to deal with but it has to happen, at some time. I'm sorry for your impending loss but I also hope her suffering can be eased.

 

[jamie2112]

I am sorry to hear that bro.I wish for your and her pain to ease quickly.......

 

[Rickster71]

Sorry to hear the news of your Grandmother; peace and condolences sent your way.

 

[adk highlander]

My thoughts are with you lsiberain. Not many things are more difficult than watching a family member suffer. I hope they can find a way to make her more comfortable. Take care.

 

[ParadigmDawg]

Isiberian,

You and your family are in our prayers. I lost both Grandmothers in the same year and I know how difficult it is.

She should not be uncomfortable, she needs to have a quite and peaceful passing. Please look into palliative care right away.

If you need help finding a good Hospice company let me know.

 

[markw]

You've got 'em.

 

[STRONGBADF1]

Sorry to hear lsiberian. Seeing a loved one in pain is tough.

 

[j_garcia]

Very sorry to hear it. Went through something similar with my grandfather last year.

 

[James NM]

Find some comfort in knowing that she is headed to a far better place, and that her pain and suffering will be no more.

 

[TheSoundMan21]

Find some comfort in knowing that she is headed to a far better place, and that her pain and suffering will be no more.

I have to second this... understanding that the transition time is difficult you and your family certainly have my prayers. May you and your family have peace.

 

[jeffsg4mac]

It's hard to lose a family member and it's even harder to watch them suffer. Nothing I or anyone else can say will make you feel better now, but you will feel better over time. My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[speakerman39]

Isi, just wanted to let you know that both you and your Grandmother are in my prayers. My heart goes out to you both. I lost my Grandmother back in 2002 and I remember how hard it was for me. My Mom has been going through a hard time as well with her lung cancer. If there is anything I can, then please let me know. May God bless you and your family.



Cheers,

Phil

 

[TheSoundMan21]

Isi, just wanted to let you know that both you and your Grandmother are in my prayers. My heart goes out to you both. I lost my Grandmother back in 2002 and I remember how hard it was for me. My Mom has been going through a hard time as well with her lung cancer. If there is anything I can, then please let me know. May God bless you and your family.



Cheers,

Phil

good sig speakerman

 

[speakerman39]

good sig speakerman

Thanks a lot as I do appreciate the compliment.



Cheers,

Phil

 

[Gizmologist]

Lost my brother in law 1-31-2010

My brother in law was very sick with COPD and congestive heart failure. Full respiratory arrest 10 times and intubated each time.After the last hospital stay he said he had stayed long enough and was tired of the fighting and the intubations etc. We put him on Hospice care through Kaiser.

They came to the house every other day and did basic care plus had counselors etc. What I found was that he just needed to talk and make his peace with the world. So we talked a LOT. He had no fear of dying and we even joked about it. That kinda freaked out the Hospice folks but so what.

They gave me liquid oral morphine and xanax to give him if needed. He only asked one time. On the night he died, I sat with him and just talked quietly to him as he drifted in and out and told him it was OK to go and that there was a party waiting for him when he got to Heaven. In the last couple hours he started gently waving to people I could not see and smiling. He finally just took one last breath and was on his way.

I have had this same experience with other friends. There IS more to this world and the next than we can possibly comprehend. We do NOT die. The machine we walk around in dies, but the Spirit goes on.

Want actual proof? The human body operates on electricity. Electricity is energy. One of the basic laws of physics is that energy cannot be destroyed, it can only change state. What is the most common use of man-made electricity? To create light. Think back on how many times the Bible and other religious texts make reference to light.

Ever hear the phrase "Go towards the Light"? Ever wonder why?

I guarantee you that your grandmother is NOT truly dying, she is just moving on to the next level and you WILL be with her again.

She won't be here and your family will miss her BUT she will always be with you. She is heading on to a marvelous and wonderful experience.

I wish for you all the comfort of knowing this life is just a short step on the journey.

 

[tesseract]

Isiberian, take solace in the fact that the world is a better place for her having been in it. THAT is what life is all about.

 

[ArthurPE]

we know this:
we are born
we die
it is the great equalizer, there is no other option

but it's the life in between that matters, and she will leave you & your parents behind...is this not a good thing? a piece of her will live on...it's up to you to make it a 'good' piece...

as far as 'after', no one can tell you one way or the other...we will (or won't) know until after, it's the reward for living, why should that secret be shared with the living? that's why it's called 'faith' and not 'fact'....

as far as electricty, perhaps like the heat off a light bulb which dissipates in a random and evenly distributed/disjoint fashion, merging into a common enthalpy with all the other heat from all the other 'bulbs', never to be reconstituted into a single unique entity again, never associated with that single light bulb, all 'connection' lost...but this is not bad, or hopeless, it may be 'just the way it is'....perhaps you may not 'be with' her again, but you may 'be one' with her...
and perhaps, that 'one', that 'universe', is 'God' or 'heaven'?

I wish her and your family peace during this trying time...