A loss of a family member

[adk highlander]

My father in-law died yesterday. We only found out he was ill on Monday and my wife was not able to get to Scotland before he passed. They did not want to tell her until she got there today. He had pain in his side only two weeks ago and was found to be full of cancer. He never showed a symptom before the pain. Her mom didn't want to tell us until they knew what they were dealing with but he and went downhill so fast that when they told us on Monday they did not think he would make the week.

I am still in shock that he went so fast. I feel so fortunate that I was able to spend a few weeks with him this past summer. He died peacefully without pain with his wife and some of his kids by his side. At only sixty it does not seem possible. I have spent the day working to try and stay busy and keep a brave face in front of our five year old. Now she has gone to sleep I have more time to reflect. He was a kind man who did so much for my wife and I. I wish I could be there with them but due to our young one and financial reasons I cannot go as well.

I would ask you all to raise your glass and toast to Ian. A father, friend, husband and an outright great human being. Ian I love you and I will miss you.

Thanks for giving me a place to help deal with my grief.

Craig

 

[unreal.freak]

My father in-law died yesterday. We only found out he was ill on Monday and my wife was not able to get to Scotland before he passed. They did not want to tell her until she got there today. He had pain in his side only two weeks ago and was found to be full of cancer. He never showed a symptom before the pain. Her mom didn't want to tell us until they knew what they were dealing with but he and went downhill so fast that when they told us on Monday they did not think he would make the week.

I am still in shock that he went so fast. I feel so fortunate that I was able to spend a few weeks with him this past summer. He died peacefully without pain with his wife and some of his kids by his side. At only sixty it does not seem possible. I have spent the day working to try and stay busy and keep a brave face in front of our five year old. Now she has gone to sleep I have more time to reflect. He was a kind man who did so much for my wife and I. I wish I could be there with them but due to our young one and financial reasons I cannot go as well.

I would ask you all to raise your glass and toast to Ian. A father, friend, husband and an outright great human being. Ian I love you and I will miss you.

Thanks for giving me a place to help deal with my grief.

Craig

Craig Im sorry for your family's loss. Ill keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers.


Peace,
Tommy

 

[Gimpy Ric]

Sorry for your loss Craig. Well keep your wife and family in our prayers.

Ric

 

[mike c]

my condolences highlander.

 

[Adam]

Craig, that's very sad. You and your family have my condolences and prayers.

You wrote a very nice tribute to him. I will, without any humor intended here, raise a toast to him tonight.

Adam

 

[adk highlander]

Thanks guys. I was torn as to if I should say anything here. I want to honor him in whatever way I can. He was one of those people who did not dwell on the negatives in life and always looked at the good in the world around him.

Typing out how I feel, I hope, will help me get through this. I think just getting out how he influenced my life is somewhat cathartic.

 

[speakerman39]

My father in-law died yesterday. We only found out he was ill on Monday and my wife was not able to get to Scotland before he passed. They did not want to tell her until she got there today. He had pain in his side only two weeks ago and was found to be full of cancer. He never showed a symptom before the pain. Her mom didn't want to tell us until they knew what they were dealing with but he and went downhill so fast that when they told us on Monday they did not think he would make the week.

I am still in shock that he went so fast. I feel so fortunate that I was able to spend a few weeks with him this past summer. He died peacefully without pain with his wife and some of his kids by his side. At only sixty it does not seem possible. I have spent the day working to try and stay busy and keep a brave face in front of our five year old. Now she has gone to sleep I have more time to reflect. He was a kind man who did so much for my wife and I. I wish I could be there with them but due to our young one and financial reasons I cannot go as well.

I would ask you all to raise your glass and toast to Ian. A father, friend, husband and an outright great human being. Ian I love you and I will miss you.

Thanks for giving me a place to help deal with my grief.

Craig

Craig, from the bottom of my heart please accept my condolences. Cancer is just one of those things in life that just won't go away. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. My Mom is fighting this battle as we speak. To be honest, I am scared to death for her. May God put his hand upon you and your family and bring healing to all of you. If, there is ANYTHING I can do please don't hesitate to let me know.

Cheers,

Phil

 

[adk highlander]

Thank you Phil. My thoughts go to you and your mother as well. I hope that she is able to beat this disease and spend many more years to come with you and your family. I know this experience will move me to be more active about advocating more for cancer research.

 

[jinjuku]

Craig,

Our thoughts are with you.

J

 

[Nomo]

Sorry for the loss Craig. I wish to extend your wife, yourself, and family my best wishes.
For what little it's worth at this point; take comfort in the fact that he went quickly and peacefully.

 

[Alex2507]

Hi Craig,

I am sorry for your family's loss. My hope is that your family will appreciate your time together more.

Please accept my condolences,
Alex

 

[speakerman39]

Thank you Phil. My thoughts go to you and your mother as well. I hope that she is able to beat this disease and spend many more years to come with you and your family. I know this experience will move me to be more active about advocating more for cancer research.

Thank you so very much Craig. To be honest, my Mom really is NOT doing well. However, she is a tough woman and much stronger than I ever will be. It sounds like your Father-in-Law was a very optimistic person regardless of the circumstances. The world needs people like that. As Nomo mentioned, I am glad he went peacefully rather than the alternative. I admire your courage to remain strong for your family. It clearly shows you are a man with great character. Kudos to you my friend. We ALL are here for you if you need us.

Cheers,

Phil

 

[MidnightSensi]

Condolences & much respect.

 

[rnatalli]

So sorry for your loss.

 

[adk highlander]

Thank you so very much Craig. To be honest, my Mom really is NOT doing well. However, she is a tough woman and much stronger than I ever will be. It sounds like your Father-in-Law was a very optimistic person regardless of the circumstances. The world needs people like that. As Nomo mentioned, I am glad he went peacefully rather than the alternative. I admire your courage to remain strong for your family. It clearly shows you are a man with great character. Kudos to you my friend. We ALL are here for you if you need us.

Cheers,

Phil

Phil I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you. I do accept that due to the advanced nature of his cancer that going peacefully like he did was the best thing. But to have to deal with the constant wonder and worry about each visit to the doctor is a much greater burden to bear. You are the one showing great character to be with her and strong by her side. To be able to do that over the long haul must be extremely difficult. I do hope she gets better and enjoy all of your time together.

 

[Rickster71]

Thanks guys. I was torn as to if I should say anything here. I want to honor him in whatever way I can. He was one of those people who did not dwell on the negatives in life and always looked at the good in the world around him.

Typing out how I feel, I hope, will help me get through this. I think just getting out how he influenced my life is somewhat cathartic.

Craig, I'm very sorry for your families loss.
I'm glad you did mention it here.
The longer I'm on this forum, the more I realize that it's like big family.
It's a great place to share a heartfelt tribute to your father in-law.
He really sounded like a great guy.

Rick

 

[speakerman39]

Phil I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you. I do accept that due to the advanced nature of his cancer that going peacefully like he did was the best thing. But to have to deal with the constant wonder and worry about each visit to the doctor is a much greater burden to bear. You are the one showing great character to be with her and strong by her side. To be able to do that over the long haul must be extremely difficult. I do hope she gets better and enjoy all of your time together.

Thank you once again Craig for the kind words. It is not so much that my Mom has cancer, but that all she does is keep telling me she is in pain. Here I am more or less powerless to do anything about it. Yeah, I can call her doctors and kinda get in their $h*t. But the truth is, all they do is look at you..........WTF???? For some reason, most of her doctors act like you are NOT even there. Just come in, get your treatment, and then go home. I mean are the treatments working? Why is my Mom in so much pain??? Anyways, she is suffering and it is ripping me apart. One day, I hope that we as a nation can wipe cancer off of the map! Just remember that this forum is full of great people and in some way we all are a family. Hang in there and keep your chin up.

Cheers,

Phil

 

[j_garcia]

Sorry to hear it ADK. Events like this are never easy. My condolences. I don't have one to hold up at the moment, but I will as soon as I do.

 

[jamie2112]

Craig I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I will raise a glass and toast Ian and you and your wife.......

 

[Halon451]

Craig, so very sorry to hear of your loss. I offer my sincere condolences, and believe I speak on behalf of all of us when I say we are both humbled and honored that you chose to share this most tragic news with the AH family. We're here for you bud.