A loss of a family member

[bandphan]

Raise a glass of the Macallan 18 to IAN, sorry for your familys loss

scott

 

[ParadigmDawg]

Craig,

I am sorry, I missed this thread. I will get a bottle of Ian's favorite tonight and raise my glass and toast to what sounds like a fine family man who was loved by many and left his mark on his loved ones.

My step-father died suddenly of cancer about 8 years ago. He was a very strong man and this God aweful disease took him to his knees and then took his life just a few weeks after the findings.

I will say a prayer for you and your family and ask for a special hand on your wife during this most difficult time. If ever you need anything, you have my number.

Greg

 

[adk highlander]

Thank you Greg. And thank you again to everyone who has posted their thoughts. Posting my thoughts and feelings here has been helpful for me to work through my grief and the support from everyone is really appreciated.

I'm sure cancer has taken someone close to us during our lifetime. I know I am going to get more involved in some way in the future to help fight this disease. I would not wish this on anyone.

 

[Midcow2]

Adk,

Sorry about your loss.

MidCow2

 

[STRONGBADF1]

My condolences ADK

Take care,
Doug

 

[haraldo]

Craig

When I read your post I just have to stop, for many reasons....
This is a very nice tribute to what was obviously a very fine man, and a very strong post

It reminds us about how fragile our lives are, and how important it is to appreciate what we have today, not tomorrow, because tomorrow it may be too late
don't wait to tell people close to you what you want to say today, tomorrow it may be too late, I learned that lesson myself too in a very hard way

It is in difficult times like these we see who are our real friends and which people that really care, you may probably be surprised by some people now who may stand out and support you in ways you didn't expect, at least that's happened to me

I'm really sorry about your great loss, but in time I'm sure that it's only the good things and good memories you will remember.

Take care

-Harald

 

[cfrizz]

My deepest condolences Craig.

I have lost my father, an uncle, and an aunt to cancer. 2 went very slowly, & one went very quickly.

Quickly is much better for the person suffering from it, but leaves those left behind in shock.

Slowly dying from cancer leaves EVERYONE suffering. And in the end, those left behind pray for the end to come and are just grateful when their loved one passes on.

It's not easy either way, Remember the fine human being that he was & take comfort in that.

 

[Davemcc]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss, ADK. It must be hard to be so far away from your family in times like this. Take care.

 

[Swerd]

Craig - Reading your memorial to your father in law Ian was moving. It brought back memories when my father died of cancer some 19 years ago. One of the best things I did at the time was write an obituary and phone it in to the local newspaper - kind of like what you did here. Over time, it will become the good memory that will outlive the shock, pain and grief of your sudden loss.

Phil - Hang in there. What you are going through with your mother is very tough. No one should have to go through that, or witness it. We are pulling for you.

As a cancer researcher for 25 years, I urge every one to quit smoking, get a colonoscopy if you are 50 years old, and if you are female, get a mamogram. If you are too young for this, urge other members of your family to get it done. Those are the best steps any of us can do to prevent cancer.

 

[A/VUSMCSGT]

I'm very sorry to hear about this.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[croseiv]

Sorry to hear about your loss in the family.

 

[jostenmeat]

adk,

I haven't had to check back in until now. Do you remember the Elmer T Lee I recommended? Took my first actual "shot" of it, with a raise, and toast to Ian.

We hope you can remain resilient during this time.

sincerely,
jostenmeat

 

[TLS Guy]

Sincere condolences

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of you father in law. He obviously was a fine gentleman. I know it makes these times very difficult when you are separated by an ocean.

Continue to toast him with a wee dram!

Best wishes to you and your wife, Mark.

 

[yettitheman]

I have a Budweiser for Ian ready to go tonight.

 

[Adam]

Craig,

Your feelings of sorrow and loss honor your father-in-law, as it shows how much you cared for him. He truly made his mark in this world. As you said, he was a man who concentrated on the positive and didn't dwell on the negative in life. If I may say, I think that's the best way to remember him and something to think about as you tell your daughter (a very difficult thing). It's much easier said than done, but try to focus on what he brought to this world and to your family, and celebrate that. While we always mourn those who depart before us, I think that we all wish that those we leave behind will not be in pain because of our leaving - we would rather that they remembered the good times. I've never been able to do it, but I think that people who celebrate the lives of those who depart have it right.

Best wishes to you and yours in this time. You all have the support of so many of us here.

Adam

 

[jamie2112]

I am having a toast right now to Ian...Cheers up there...

 

[speakerman39]

Craig, bravo to you for holding up and staying strong for your family. This is the mark of a true man in my book. Once again, it shows just good much you cared for your father-in-law. I personally salute you my friend.

Cheers,

Phil