Wife Totaled Her Car

[Alex2507]

You'd think I was ratting her out and sending her to jail...

Admit it, you just don't want to pay for a car.

 

[ryanosaur]

Admit it, you just don't want to pay for a car.

He said that upfront.
RBH, baby!

 

[ryanosaur]

@Pogre
I know it’s challenging. I’m glad she’s gonna go get checked out.
The worst possible thing that could happen in a repeat event could involve pedestrians or going through a store front. Both would have much more severe consequences.
In the end, neither is worth the risk. Stay supportive, but hold your ground, too. *bro hug

 

[Pogre]

The worst possible thing that could happen in a repeat event could involve pedestrians or going through a store front. Both would have much more severe consequences.

She is not taking any of that into consideration. I'm just ruining her life. Period. sigh

 

[-Jim-]

@Pogre Sorry to see you in a tough spot M8.

 

[3db]

She is not taking any of that into consideration. I'm just ruining her life. Period. sigh

Hang in there. That's the fear talking. For all she know's there's a better med out there that she can be put on.

 

[Alex2507]

I'm just ruining her life.

We already knew that.

So long as you know better, you can help her. People who are scared sh!tless tend to find meaningless bullsh!t to gripe about according to a friend. Evidently it's safe to ignore their gripes.

 

[ryanosaur]

I'm just ruining her life.

We already knew that.

This is called marriage.



...

 

[Mark E. Long]

Mark and Pogre, I grew up with petite mal on a farm undiagnosed driving all kinds of machinery and working with cattle. My parents insisted I get my drivers license but I told them not until you take me to a Dr to get me diagnosed. The Dr wired me up and sat me under a strobe light and started with slow flashes and ramped up the frequency of these flashes until it triggered an event. I was put on meds and it controlled the events. Before the drugs, the events would occur randomly even without the flashing lights. I remember driving a tractor on the highway to get to the garage to store it when I felt an attack coming on. I concentrated as hard as I could, made it to the drive way and immediately turned the tractor off.
Eventually, I stopped the meds, had myself tested and was clear. It seemed I out grew my condition. I got off lucky. My brothers and sisters suffer from migraines which I don't.

I feel for the both of you as it's affecting your loved ones. That must be so difficult.

Pogre, your dealing with your wife's fear of losing her atonomy and freedom. That's a huge deal for her. Maybe if you showed her that you understand that that she may drop her defenses. I do understand your side Pogre and what you need and want. Its all very reasonable and fair. Hang in there buddy.

He’s in a tuff spot as I went threw this with my daughter finally after watching herself faint at the front desk at her work ( A government contractor ) everything thing in that building is taped - they were cool with her and even set her up with the correct doctors on there dime too .
They take her from time to time and test her with a monitor to check on how many seizures she has at night one time it was 30 some but her meds keep her on an even keel with no bad spells or symptoms but it still shows up as a seizure on the monitor even tho no symptoms are shown .
It was a wild ride with this girl she had unexplained episodes for years before they watched the tape back of what was going down scary thing was she has drove in DC. Traffic for years before they diagnosed it correctly or mabey just better doctors played into it .

 

[Mark E. Long]

He said that upfront.
RBH, baby!

Or that massive starter sub box he found there awhile back

 

[jinjuku]

7 cars since 2019 and you call that reliable ?? !!

LOL, I presume you meant since 1998, regardless 7 cars in 24 years is no mark of reliability. I do agree though, Honda / Toyota is probably the way to go.

if it were me, I'd take the insurance money, get my new vehicle and give her your pick up truck !

Purchased my Altima new in 1999, drove it for 214K miles, sold it in 2012. So 7 cars, for one driver, in 24 years is ~1 car every 30 months. Something doesn't make sense about that.

 

[ryanosaur]

7 cars since 2019 and you call that reliable ?? !!

So 7 cars, for one driver, in 24 years is ~1 car every 30 months. Something doesn't make sense about that.

Verdinut said he's leasing... so every three years he is in a new Honda Civic.
Which his Honda Dealership then turns around on the used market.

 

[-Jim-]

Or that massive starter sub box he found there awhile back

Gents, remember this is @Pogre 's wife you are talking about. This is his partner in life that needs to be treated with respect and dignity. He may need to vent his frustration, but you shouldn't encourage him to push on an unreasonable position, like sharing his truck so he can buy another (OMG!) Sub. Simply childish IMHO.

 

[Mark E. Long]

Gents, remember this is @Pogre 's wife you are talking about. This is his partner in life that needs to be treated with respect and dignity. He may need to vent his frustration, but you shouldn't encourage him to push on an unreasonable position, like sharing his truck so he can buy another (OMG!) Sub. Simply childish IMHO.

No harm intended towards his wife or anything like that trust me I know exactly What they are going through been there done all that . Don’t believe I encouraged our friend to buy a dam thing so quote someone else .

 

[ryanosaur]

Gents, remember this is @Pogre 's wife you are talking about. This is his partner in life that needs to be treated with respect and dignity. He may need to vent his frustration, but you shouldn't encourage him to push on an unreasonable position, like sharing his truck so he can buy another (OMG!) Sub. Simply childish IMHO.

I don’t think anybody here is truly encouraging our friend Pogre to do any such thing. In fact, if you were paying attention you would see that Mark and Pogre have shared some common issues.
That there is joking is part of the venting process and has even been initiated by Pogre, himself.

I think I can speak for most of the participants in this thread by saying we have all wished his wife well, expressed our gladness that nobody was actually injured, and that we all wish he and his wife peace and unity during this unsettled time for them.



Besides, it’s not another sub he wants to buy, but RBH Towers!!!
C’mon, Jim! Get with it!!!



On a more serious note, the thing I last brought up was the risk of this happening again and the potential outcome being much more severe. His wife has agreed to go to the doctor and get checked out.
This is not without risk to her autonomy. She could very well lose her driving privilege if the doctor thinks there is a bigger problem.
None of this is lost on anybody who has had a loved one get their driving privilege revoked.
I watched my Dad do this for his father and my mother both. She was far from happy. And she crashed the car IN the garage.
None of this is light and funny considering that lives are at stake.

Pogre gets it. Mark gets it. I get it. And I’m pretty certain everybody else does to.

Cool?

 

[Mark E. Long]

I don’t think anybody here is truly encouraging our friend Pogre to do any such thing. In fact, if you were paying attention you would see that Mark and Pogre have shared some common issues.
That there is joking is part of the venting process and has even been initiated by Pogre, himself.

I think I can speak for most of the participants in this thread by saying we have all wished his wife well, expressed our gladness that nobody was actually injured, and that we all wish he and his wife peace and unity during this unsettled time for them.



Besides, it’s not another sub he wants to buy, but RBH Towers!!!
C’mon, Jim! Get with it!!!



On a more serious note, the thing I last brought up was the risk of this happening again and the potential outcome being much more severe. His wife has agreed to go to the doctor and get checked out.
This is not without risk to her autonomy. She could very well lose her driving privilege if the doctor thinks there is a bigger problem.
None of this is lost on anybody who has had a loved one get their driving privilege revoked.
I watched my Dad do this for his father and my mother both. She was far from happy. And she crashed the car IN the garage.
None of this is light and funny considering that lives are at stake.

Pogre gets it. Mark gets it. I get it. And I’m pretty certain everybody else does to.

Cool?

Spot on !! It’s a hard thing to deal with on all sides but hey I definitely get it .

 

[Pogre]

Gents, remember this is @Pogre 's wife you are talking about. This is his partner in life that needs to be treated with respect and dignity. He may need to vent his frustration, but you shouldn't encourage him to push on an unreasonable position, like sharing his truck so he can buy another (OMG!) Sub. Simply childish IMHO.

Jim, while I truly appreciate the sentiment and even more so the level of respect you're showing I've been here long enough now that these guys know my sense of humor and I can take a joke. I'd better be able to take a joke. I dish it out pretty thick sometimes myself.

I'm not seriously considering doing that, I even joked about it myself, lol. It's okay man. I love all you guys.

 

[highfigh]

And here's the kicker... her fleeing the scene was bad. Bad bad bad. However, if she hadn't come home I wouldn't have been there to explain to the cop that she has a condition, is confused and doesn't have good recollection of events. I coached her to just say "it happened so fast, I don't know what happened". Because if she tried to tell the cop the same story she told me, with no context of her condition it wouldn't have gone so well. She told me that she got hit, and that it wasn't her fault. So basically blamed the other guy.

"Your story makes no sense. You just tell him you're not sure what happened.". She got a ticket and it's already taken care of. She just finished her traffic school yesterday. No points even. If I hadn't been there to buffer her story...

Was she checked for concussion?

 

[highfigh]

I do understand what's at stake for her and why she's resisting. I haven't gotten angry with her about getting into an accident. I'm a little pissed that she lied about it tho... but I'm giving her some benefit of the doubt because I do think it's partly her brain trying to stitch together a chain of events so there's no gap. At least I was able to coach her and explain that her story ain't gonna fly with the cop.

We just hashed it out and she agreed to get some blood work done on Monday. She hates me and I'm ruining her life, but she agreed to go. I'm reminded that the last time she had one she wasn't allowed to drive for 3 months until the new dosage kicked in. Thats not even that bad. You'd think I was ratting her out and sending her to jail...

If she remembers it differently because she may have had a seizure, that wouldn't be lying- she just doesn't remember what happened.

Tell her that it doesn't make her a bad person and remind her that this could have gone in a far worse direction if she had driven into the path of a semi, train or someone who was speeding.

 

[Mark E. Long]

If she remembers it differently because she may have had a seizure, that wouldn't be lying- she just doesn't remember what happened.

Tell her that it doesn't make her a bad person and remind her that this could have gone in a far worse direction if she had driven into the path of a semi, train or someone who was speeding.

I agree with this my daughter didn’t remember how she got to work sometimes which she never told anyone about these spells .
It took her being woke by EMT’s at a street light in 6 lane metro traffic in DC at 5 o’clock in the evening to Finley put the fear of god in her . She may truly not remember anything about the incident that’s so possible.