There was absolutely nothing educational in the others' posts. There is a very definite trend of this kind of behavior on forums of all kinds, it's like being in the comment section on youtube. Anyway, thank you for your mostly constructive response.
If you look at the amplitude graphs the Dayton 15 doesn't really start to peak til 2.5 octaves over the 220 crossover point. The Tang Band has a 3db peak around 4k and 5db peak between 8 and 10k and starts peaking again after 12k. Interestingly, the Dayton tweeter has approximately a 4db dip between 8 and 10k. May encounter slight peaks at 2 and 4k. Of all the drivers I looked at in my price range these seem to mesh much better, and be much tamer than others. Not to mention, I've owned some version of all these and was very pleased with them. Here are the links showing the specs and graphs for the drivers in question:
As far as power handling, these 5" mids have more power handling(and lower fs) than the dual 3" tang bands I currently have crossed over at 200hz, 1st order, and I have cranked these many times and had no problems, and surprisingly, not much distortion. Is there some other reason that crossing over low passively can have deleterious effects?
The woofers will be in separate cabinets, the mid and tweeter in their own small cabs, flush mounted.
I am not after perfection, just good, and I don't have a particularly refined ear. After building quite a few speaker systems, most of the early ones with prefabbed 12db crossovers, and some with custom 12db crossovers, built to recommendation, I have had a number of disappointments. The system I have now with dual 3" TB bamboo drivers and dayton sub crossed over at 200hz is the most pleasing yet, although not good off axis and lacking great high highs.