I think you did everything right.

And no need to worry about hijacking threads.

I don't think! Much learning and fun can be had has sidebars!
Anyway, I just think something is going on, either in your room acoustics, set-up, or just in matching subs to room that is putting you right at the cusp of larger subs.
I did the Audyssey thing, set for ~73dB on the initial level adjust for the Subs, but then had upright bass in a small jazz combo vibrating me. So it was set maybe a little over 1/3 gain, and I turned it down to almost half gain, as well as resetting the trim levels to about -4dB. I left the Audyssey Speaker Level Calibration alone (-6 and -7dB for the two Subs).
Now this is where the classic YMMV comes in.

Even two people with the same Subs will have different results. But when I want more Woof, I use the AVR trim under Subwoofer Level Adjust... never touching the Gain, or the Speaker Level setting that Aud. set.
Perhaps, I'm wrong, but I suspect that what Irv was saying earlier, is that there are a lot of other variables in the chain than just using your SPL meter to confirm where your subs are set. and a High-level vs Low-level recording (for example) can change that experience, or a device in the signal chain that changes the gain structure throughout the signal path...
Regardless, my spidey senses were tingling when you said you turned things up.