That explains everything! You are using the sub as an "HT only" sub! I did not realize that!
My point is that were you to listen to music on this system; using your sub as it is currently tuned, it should have way, way, too much deep bass in-room. If you tried listening to some of your favorite "bassy" music and the sub engaged, you would know exactly what I have been obsessing over! Change the extension to high and you will have a better experience (for music).
It is a safe bet that if you were to measure FR from the listening position, you are running at least 5dB (and likely closer to 10dB) hot down around 20Hz. However, unless you are listening to a movie with an emphasis on music, you will not mind (and probably will enjoy) the extra bass!
As much as I
hate "bass bloat" when listening to music, for most movies, I turn up the subs 6dB... and sometimes more for a rowdy action film!
When listening to music you can tell the bass is too pronounced and resolution of upper bass is lost to the overblown lower bass. But for HT, if there is an explosion 25 ft away or if a dinosaur stomps, who is to say what the correct balance of bass is? For the explosion, you don't really want the real experience, but getting more than the recording engineer "intended" is not a bad thing as long as you are not breaking too much stuff in your home!
This guy ran his subs too hot despite repeated complaints from the neighbors!