If I only had one or two Emo components and everything else was all black I'd definitely take off the trim. Right now everything is Emo except the BD player so there is some uniformity. When I built the cab I lined the legs up with the trim to give it clean lines.
The nice thing is it only takes about 15 minutes to change the look.
It's not gay to care about how things look. It would be gay if you wanted purple trim though.