That said, there is a disconnect when "don't forget room treatment" is a pretty standard refrain
This is an excellent point to which I have found myself commenting all too frequently about. You are absolutely correct that MANY people with no experience or understanding talk about the importance of treating a room. This is even said at the expense of many other aspects of proper set up of the equipment and even just getting proper equipment.
We've seen threads and posts where rooms were self-treated prior to even having gear installed, others where you couldn't see any wall for all the treatments they jammed in, and this goes on and on.
As with anything online, one has to draw the line somewhere.
Cables, room treatments, synergy between amps and speakers... all of this is classic audiophoolery run amok.
You asked a question, two of us offered help. You dipped.
No skin off my back. I participate here in this forum to give back to a community that helped me when I asked basic questions. I participate here, too, because I also consider some of these people friends, in the way one can be friends online with only a handle and an avatar to associate with.
If you choose not to participate in the face of being challenged, or because you don't want to post photos, that is your choice.
All I can say is that the value of experience and thoughtfulness a majority of the regular participants here share in their free-time, and of their selfless interest in helping others, far outweighs one or two wry quips. Dog knows, I've had my share of barbed comments for some of the questions I asked. And for being challenged a little, I've learned, too.
So to see you say that our replies were condescending?! ...this only makes me think you were looking more for commiseration or affirmation rather than knowledge and help solving a problem.
Cheers.