Vaughn,
When a sound wave interferes with a boundary, the reflecting wave (assuming normal, 0°, incidence) interferes with the incident wave, forming particle pressure maxima at at nλ/4 distances from the boundary, where n is zero or an even integer greater than zero and λ is the wavelength. Particle pressure minima (ideally, 0) are formed at mλ/4 distances, where m is a non-zero, positive, odd integer. This model assumes the boundary is a perfect reflector (no damping) at the frequency of interest.
Everywhere particle pressure is a maximum, particle velocity is a minimum. Therefore, (ideally) particle velocity is zero at the wall, a minimum at nλ/4, and a maximum at mλ/4.
For absorbing problems in a room, resistive absorbers, such as foam or fibrous panels, are a common tool. Since a resistive absorber acts on particle velocity, it would be ideal to place the absorber at the mλ/4 distance from the wall at the frequency of interest. The other kind of absorber is a reactive type - typically one of the various "Helmholtz resonator" variety. These reactive absorbers act on particle pressure and thus should be placed at the nλ/4 points for the greatest effect at the frequency of interest.
Now, this all works very well in the theoretical world. The real world presents a different set of conditions. One is no longer interested a single frequency, but in many (all) frequencies. One is no longer dealing with perfect boundaries that reflect all the energy back into the room. One is faced with many locally reacting boundaries - wall, ceiling, floors, soffits, coffee-tables, etc. - as opposed to a single reflector. When the theory is applied to a practical situation, what was an absolute rule becomes a guideline. Instead of resistive absorber placement at mλ/4 distance for a single frequency, placement at mλ/4 for the lowest frequency one wishes to treat is a good guideline. In practical experiments (again, based on theory), resistive absorbers placed a distance equal to their thickness away from the reflective surface maximizes their performance at the lowest frequencies. I.e., place a 2" glass fiber panel 2" from the wall.
As for your ears, instead of a boundary, the ear canal can be viewed as a tube closed on one end. The basic mechanical resonance of such a device is at frequencies where the length of the tube corresponds to mλ/4 as defined above.
I hope this helps!