You know I feel almost the same, but try telling that to people who have been read reviews over at Stereophile, Absolute Sound etc., that are full of what 3dB referred to as "fluff" words about how Bryston sounds clicnical and slightly forward, Pass lab sounds lay back blablabla, let along a 3312 vs ATI1807........ I was once a victim for some years so I understand quite well how many people still believe what they believe.
I used to believe in cables and interconnects! I had Kimber, Audioquest, Vampire Wire, etc. And, of course, I used to believe that all amps sounded differently also. I used to believe all the words of Stereophile, HTM, Soundstage, etc.
But I find the words from The Audio Critic to be most true: amps, preamps, wires, DAC, & CD players usually don't sound very differently; while speakers and digital processors do sound differently.
Processors are pretty much like computers. Any given firmware or program could significantly change the sound.
Oh, wait, that sounds like I am contradicting myself!
The key here is that some processors can sound differently than other processors even when they are very similar! Why? Because of certain firmware along the journey?
I can tell you MY AVR-5308 bass implementation is different than MY AVP-A1HD in Direct/ Pure Direct 2.2 mode, but they sound the same in 2.0 PD/ Direct mode or DTS & DD 5.1 mode!
There is no way in heck I am ever updating the firmware in my AVR-5308!
But I will update the firmware in my AVP-A1HD when new ones come out.
BTW, the "Inception" movie soundtrack played on my "second system" (AVR-5308+Orion+RBH) is kicking my a$$ as I type! It totally rocks on my primary system (AVP-A1+Funk+Salon2/802D2/201/2), but it is slamming my a$$ like a freight train from hell when played back on my second system in Pure Direct 2.2 mode!