Ok, I sat down with dinner and re-read this whole thread, and I think I understand now, and understand why I wasn't comprehending what you all have been saying.
Here goes my last try:
I think I'm confused...because I don't feel anything from my Polk Sub. So I've had no idea what you guys were talking about when you said calibrate the buttkicker to the sub. I was thinking that you were saying calibrate the SOUND of the 40hz test tone played through the sub to the SOUND of 40 hz test tone played through the buttkicker. However you were saying to calibrate the FEEL of the 40hz test tone played through the sub to the FEEL of the 40hz test tone played through the buttkicker. I wasn't understanding this because I can't FEEL a 40 hz test tone through my sub, so my brain kept thinking SOUND.
Then when the polk sub bashing began and you guys kept saying how I'll FEEL a difference with the Funk audio subs, it started to click.
So, do I have this right now:
Play a 40hz test tone through the sub (with the transducer off) and see how it FEELS from the seated position.
Then play a 40hz test tone through the transducer (with the sub off) and calibrate that FEELING to the sub feeling?
And one more thing, I think I realize why you keep saying we can't calibrate the buttkicker. Because sound moves through air and we understand the properties of air and how it affects sound. IE: Air is constant in the equation. But tactile sensation moves through our bodies and we don't understand the properties of our bodies because every body is unique. So we can't calibrate something through a medium that has such a high variability.
I swear, if I'm still lost I'm going to hang myself. Because I really feel like I had a eureka moment just now. (Kidding about the hanging, but I'll be really angry and probably go a few rounds on the punching bag to vent some steam).