I don't really want a bass boat

[ParadigmDawg]

Sorry that I haven't been on here much lately. I am still addicted to Mountain Biking and it has ruined my drinking and posting on my favorite forum plus my body weight is down to about 11 lbs...I still check up on you guys and make sure everything is under control.

I have always received my best advice on here. I think I have made it through a divorce, a marriage, sobriety, drinking, cessation of COPE and starting to dip again through the help of you guys...so this one should be easy.

So...my Dad finally retired. This is the 2nd time, the first one didn't stick. I always had a vision of my Dad fishing sun up to sun down once he retired as he used to love fishing that much. The past 7 years he pretty much quit fishing and I know it's secondary to his health.

He called me last night and said he would like to give me his boat. He said that he just can't physically take it out anymore. This is a 2001 Nitro NX 882 and likely has a value of 6-8k.

I don't fish, have any desire to start fishing nor do I really have a place to store a boat.

I feel like this is something that my Dad would really like to pass on to me and I feel like I would regret it, after he is gone, if I don't act excited and accept it.

I am kind of known for buying cheap and selling expensive but I would never be able to sell this boat nor would I really ever use it.

What would you guys do?

 

[Alex2507]

You could always give it to me.

 

[Nomo]

My dad passed on a few years ago.
I have ten thousands regets about what I didn't do or say.

Take the boat.
Take up fishing.
Get a friend who can fish and handle a boat.
Take your dad out fishing.

I realize these things are easy to say, but I miss my dad and the times I was too busy to spend time with him.

 

[ParadigmDawg]

My dad passed on a few years ago.
I have ten thousands regets about what I didn't do or say.

Take the boat.
Take up fishing.
Get a friend who can fish and handle a boat.
Take your dad out fishing.

I realize these things are easy to say, but I miss my dad and the times I was too busy to spend time with him.

That hit home...I will ask him if I can go there and take him fishing. Thanks!

 

[walter duque]

You know that's a funny thing. I have this Threshold S/350e amp (which is my pride and joy, it's at least a 9.5 on agon rating. I have had this amp for years boxed up and just saving it for the right moment. My son (33 years old) I was going to suprise him and give him this amp. Well I carried this sucker into his house and felt real proud by giving him this amp. The response I got was, I don't want this ugly thing. On the way home I actualy had tears in my eyes.
So please take the boat if you like it or not, every time you see your father might be the last time, make him happy, you owe him that much. Don't make him feel like I felt, it hurts.

 

[billy p]

You know that's a funny thing. I have this Threshold S/350e amp (which is my pride and joy, it's at least a 9.5 on agon rating. I have had this amp for years boxed up and just saving it for the right moment. My son (33 years old) I was going to suprise him and give him this amp. Well I carried this sucker into his house and felt real proud by giving him this amp. The response I got was, I don't want this ugly thing. On the way home I actualy had tears in my eyes.
So please take the boat if you like it or not, every time you see your father might be the last time, make him happy, you owe him that much. Don't make him feel like I felt, it hurts.

OR...

You could always give it to me.

Just kidding...thinking it would put a smile on your face....

 

[Whitey80]

Once you're half drunk laying on a boat, you may change your mind and realize how awesome it is!

I absolutely hate heavy trail riding on atv's, but it's my dad's thing, and that's the only real way we get to spend time together, so I bought an overyly expensive Yamaha Grizzly. Sometimes you just have to go. The memories are well worth it.

 

[Adam]

Greg, consider being honest with him about what you're thinking, which you've stated here. You don't want to hurt his feelings, but you don't think that you'd use the boat, and it would have so much sentimental value that you wouldn't part with it - so it would become something to store. My guess is that your dad wants you to be happy, and he thinks this will make you happy. If it won't, let him know. Granted, don't tell him it's ugly and that you don't want it. (Trust me, Walter, it's never fun to hear that - be it from a son or some girl at a bar ).

If you do decide to take it, fully decide to take it - 'cause it's easy to see when someone doesn't really want something, and that will probably bother him more than if you tell him the truth and talk through it.

 

[tattoo_Dan]

plus my body weight is down to about 11 lbs.

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LOL just messing around

 

[STRONGBADF1]

That hit home...I will ask him if I can go there and take him fishing. Thanks!

I first read your thread starter about 3 minutes after you posted it...I had to sleep on a response. My knee jerk reaction was to tell your dad thank you but he should keep the boat and you'll just take him fishing with it. That way if you're not around and he's feeling up to it he can just go fishing himself. I still feel the same way. I just know if I was in your shoes the boat would end up sitting at my house or storage never used and Dad would probably get upset because giving it to me was a waste.

Without really knowing you or your dad and your relationship together, this has the feel of your dad reaching out to you and wanting you to go fishing because he has always enjoyed it. Maybe...maybe not.

 

[GO-NAD!]

P'Dawg, when I read Nomo's post, I reacted the way you did - I wouldn't be able to turn it down. Then, after pondering it a bit more, a couple of factors came to mind. I'll assume your dad knows that you don't fish and haven't expressed any desire to go fishing? Maybe you could explain that you don't have room for it and are unlikely to make use of it. How about suggesting that if he wants to do something for you, that he sell the boat and the two of you take a nice trip together. Something the two of you could enjoy and generate good memories.

Just another possibility...

 

[Warpdrv]

Sounds like your Father could use help with getting the boat in the water and its a great opportunity to get out on the water and spend some time with him - regardless if you fish or not... Bring a video camera and snap off some good photos as well...

Perfect opportunity to catch some great memories with him and be able to look back on those pics and video for years to come...

Don't let that go...

I'm lucky enough to spend everyday working with my father and my family, regardless if its hard some times - not many people are as lucky to have that possibility. There are some many things that I have learned and laughed at with my father over the years - things I will miss greatly when his time comes...

 

[GoFastr]

I love my dad and will really miss him him when he is gone so I would hate to hurt his feelings while he is still alive.

My dad loves country music and I feel the tears welling up every time I hear this Alan Jackson song, Drive.


It was painted red the stripe was white
It was 18 feet from the bow to stern light
Secondhand from a dealer in Atlanta
I rode up with daddy when he went there to get her
We put on a shine, put on a motor
Built out of love, and made for the water
Ran her for years, til' the transom got rotten
A piece of my childhood will never be forgoten

It was just an old plywood boat
With a 75 Johnson with electric choke
A young boy two hands on the wheel
I can't replace the way it made me feel
And I would turn her sharp
And I would make it whine
He'd say, "You can't beat the way a old wood boat rides"
Just a little lake cross the Alabama line
But I was king of the ocean
When Daddy let me drive

Just an old half ton short bed ford
My Uncle bought new in 64
Daddy got it right cause the engine was smoking
A couple of burnt valves and he had it going
He'd let me drive her when we haul off a load
Down a dirt strip where we'd dump trash off of Thickpen Road
I'd sit up in the seat and stretch my feet out to the pedels
Smiling like a hero who just received his medal

It was just an old hand me down ford
With 3 speed on the column and a dent in the door
A young boy two hands on the wheel
I can't replace the way it made me feel and
I would press that clutch
And I would keep it right
He would say a little slower son
Your doing just fine
Just a dirt road with trash on each side
But I was Mario Andretti
When Daddy let me drive

I'm grown up now
3 daughters of my own
I let them drive my old jeep
Across the pasture at our home
Maybe one day they'll reach back in their file
And pull out that old memory
And think of me and smile
And say

It was just an old worn out jeep
Rusty old floor boards
Hot on my feet
A young girl two hands on the wheel
I can't replace the way it made me feel
And he'd say
Turn it left, and steer it right
Straighten up girl now, you're doing just fine
Just a little valley by the river where we'd ride
But I was high on a mountain

When Daddy let me drive

Daddy let me drive

Oh he let me drive

It's just an old plywood boat
With a 75 johnson
And electric choke

 

[j_garcia]

My dad retired last year. He currently has a full time job... He also bought an old boat to take out on the lake. I haven't had a chance to get up there to go out fishing with him this year, but it is clearly a big deal for him and he enjoys it. Will definitely be going out with him next season though. I don't really fish either, but I love being out on the lake. Fishing isn't always about catching anything

 

[ParadigmDawg]

Thanks for the thought you guys put into this, it was all of great value to me.

I would consider my relationship with my Dad as very close but maybe not in a conventional way. We have deep love for each other but we only see each other twice a year and only call on birthdays. Neither of us like talking on the phone and we are both private people.

I am undecided on what I will do but I will keep you posted. Please keep the comments coming.

Thanks,

Greg

 

[adk highlander]

Hey Greg,

I'm not sure I can say it better than it has already been said by Nomo or GO-NAD. I agree with both of them even though they are opposing ideas of how to handle the situation.

I would say my relationship with my Dad is very similar to yours. We get on very well and I have a deep amount of respect and love but we do not speak very often. I have found that we have had our best times while actually working together on different projects. Either him helping me build a deck or me helping him with his camp. I'm not much of a water guy or fisherman so I do have a good idea as to what it might feel like to be put in that situation. If you guys live close and he could still store the boat and you were able to take him out once a month or so I think that would be the best solution.

 

[markw]

That's false advertisung!!!

I thought this was about some new kind of subwoofer!

 

[ParadigmDawg]

Hey Greg,

I'm not sure I can say it better than it has already been said by Nomo or GO-NAD. I agree with both of them even though they are opposing ideas of how to handle the situation.

I would say my relationship with my Dad is very similar to yours. We get on very well and I have a deep amount of respect and love but we do not speak very often. I have found that we have had our best times while actually working together on different projects. Either him helping me build a deck or me helping him with his camp. I'm not much of a water guy or fisherman so I do have a good idea as to what it might feel like to be put in that situation. If you guys live close and he could still store the boat and you were able to take him out once a month or so I think that would be the best solution.

We are about 3 hours away from each other by car. We don't have a lot in common, I would rather be doing something athletic and he just likes to tinker around in the yard. We both bore with being around people quickly so visitation is not our thing.

 

[majorloser]

My father and I never did see eye to eye. In fact we haven't spoke to each other in over 25 years, since before I was married. So I envy you for having a chance to spend quality time with your father. I wish mine would call me up one day and ask me to go fishing with him. But it ain't gonna happen. So being that I'm just as hard headed, neither will I.

Hey, boats are money pits. It'll cost you to keep it running and make the repair that I know a 10 year old boat is gonna need. Even offering to help with the boat maintenance and taking him fishing once in a while might be enough to make him happy.

Something similar recently happened to one of my employees. His father gave him his bass boat cause he felt he was too old to deal with it. Now the son takes his dad out fishing. The father gets to go fishing with his son and grandson. But now he doesn't have to care for the boat.

 

[picture_shooter]

Dont look at the boat as money or a cash out to make it a benefit to yourself.

I bet if anything it crossed your mind that you take it, sell it and buy a better wheel-set for that sweet Yeti or better yet, the new 575 and then some.......

In all honesty, if you are not to far from him, I say if you don't have room for it keep it over at your pop's house. Make the effort of of loading up the Nitro and pops and full ice-chest of drinks and food and some cool tunes. Enjoy the lake and talk about old times.

I recently lost my dad @ the age of 57 and he too loved fishing and I did go w/ him (both of us had owned boats) however his was more suited for fishing since it was a bass boat. Mine was a Open-bow ski boat.

All I wish is I could have my pops back, he was a strong mentor to me and him leaving me tore a 80% out of my heart!!

Live life, make time spend time with him and you'll thank me later for sure