I don't doubt that others want to check their mixes using your equipment- it's impossible to know how the music will sound in all locations, through all systems, and not all studios/producers use the same monitors although we already discussed the much hated, but almost ubiquitous Yamaha NS-10. Your view is from Classical but the rest of the musical world is different and you can't ignore the importance of other genres, even if you like nothing about them. Seeing everything as 'Classical or garbage' is very closed-minded, but it's your view and that makes it as valid as anyone else's view, regardless of how much you or they dislike each others' preferences. Duke Ellington is credited with saying "There are only two types of music- good music and bad music". It's up to the listener to decide what they like.
Higher Q is often used because the producers "want to give it some punch" because, like it or not, hard-hitting bass is what sells. Not in the Classical world, but it applies to the world that makes a lot of people rich and that's what they care about. Fatiguing, annoying, over the top? Absolutely, especially when it's coming from a car wash more than two blocks away (I hear this far too often).
The monitors used and the mixes that are created don't have anything to do with great sound unless someone wants to use better equipment- for most, it's about getting the punchy sound and making money. "Give 'em what they want" could be modified to add "...even if it's crap" and that applies to anything that is sold.