I thought I explained this, the wife, you know the other person who watches TV and movies does NOT want the subs on when she is watching TV, she is a woman, they can be quirky and less demanding on how things sound but she does want SOME bass. Hers is a very simple request, I understand her wishes for less bass when she has no wish for it so I have them powered on by a manual switch so the wife who I like to keep happy so I stay happy is happy.
When I watch TV with her (a rare event) I turn the subs on, she is fine with this when I'm with her as she knows having them on makes me happy. This works out well for us so while I know they can be left on, this does not work out for us due to WAF.