I will do my best to answer the interesting points you raise. Of course you can have too much or too little reverb. Mainly chance gets it just right.
Now as to concert halls and churches it is not simple. Many of the old concert Halls do not need acoustic treatment. By luck or design they are perfect, like Vienna's Musikverein
Modern music halls are not like that and generally need a lot of treatment.
Halls can have too much and too little.
The Royal Albert Hall in London was a dog acoustically. Sir Edward Elgar said of it:- "That is is the only place in London where I can hear my music twice in one night!"
The hall is a round dome. They are a problem because of radial echo paths. The BBC hung the famous flying saucers in the dome which have been very effective.
The Royal Festival Hall on the South Bank, built in the early fifties is a dog because it is dead. Active resonators installed by the BBC were a partial success at best. An expensive building project to lengthen the building was only a small improvement to my ears.
At the Place Des Arts in Montreal the acoustics can be altered to the needs of the program. It can be changed in concert. It seems slow and when altered can cause significant delay between works.
Older churches are generally the Italian domes, or the Norman/anglo saxon long nave style. Both have a long echo, but different, with the dome mixing up the music the most.
Much historical research has been done on this. The music of the Italian high Renaissance contains intricate moving interwoven lines. Frankly in the domed cathedrals it Italy it does not sound all that good. So musicologists have carefully researched paintings of the era, and find that tapestries were hung all over the place and also huge banners on poles moved in. There is definite evidence of massive artistic acoustic treatment at the time.
So with your room there very likely were tapestries on the walls. I think you will need to pursue some highly sensitive and artistic wall treatments.