Is sealed subs better for music and ported for movies or is that just a myth?
It is a myth. However, it has a grain of truth, in that a poorly designed ported subwoofer sucks, giving boomy bass. A properly designed one is fine.
Essentially, what a port does is allows for a bass boost from the port, but (there is always a "but") it also means that at the very deep end, the drop-off will be steeper. Take a look at this:
SVS PC13-Ultra - 1000 Watt DSP Controlled, 13" Ported Cylinder Subwoofer with Variable Tuning
Look at the graph of the frequency response (you may have to click on "Tech Specs" to see the graph); there are several curves shown, because that subwoofer allows for different "tuning" involving blocking one or more ports, and has a "sealed" mode as well in the graph. Notice what each option does to the response curve, and you will see what ports do to it.
Notice, with that subwoofer, the use of ports extends the "flat" part of the response down deeper, though it then drops off faster than if sealed. With a poorly designed ported subwoofer, instead of extending the flat response deeper, it doubles up the bass that comes directly from the woofer instead, which gives a "boomy" bass instead of a flat response. SVS does the ports properly, so they are not boomy.