Death at a young age is a very sad thing. When I was younger, one of our neighbours lost their 16 year old daughter in an unusual car accident.
The steering failed and the truck her 18yo brother was driving rolled into the ditch. She fell out the window and was crushed (in the '70s you didn't wear your seatbelt to go a mile between farms unfortunately).
It destroyed the family. Rod blamed himself for her death, though there was nothing he did wrong as a driver. Very very sad.
You need to stop smoking in all public places including bars if you haven't already.
I for one am happy to live in a country where the government has had the balls to ban smoking in public spaces. I have spent too much time in public places choking on others smoke and am happy not to have to go through that any more.
The discussion up here these days is if people should be banned from smoking in the presence of children, regardless of where they are.