As far as extraterrestrial life goes, since it isn't known exactly how life formed in the first place, it's difficult to determine how common it would be, although I have seen some attempts at mathematical calculations. I am not a biologist , but from what I have read, scientists know the necessary ingredients for life and likely catalyzing agents, but the odds of the spark of life occurring is still unclear. Seems like a "100 monkeys in a room banging away at typewriters, how long before one of them inadvertently writes Hamlet" type scenario.
And that is just for the mere formation of life. What about complex life? Remember single celled organisms were the only form of life for a large majority of Earth's history. It took something on the order of 2 billions years just for Prokaryotes to give rise to Eukaryotes, and a billion years after that before multicellular life rose. Life is just fine in a simpler state, and whatever has to happen to light the fuse of evolution is clearly an extremely infrequent event.
Furthermore, let's say the unlikely event of complex life has been kickstarted; well, it took Earth well over 500 million years for sentient life to form after that. From that fact I would say sentience and intelligence are definitely not an inevitability, indeed, and it looks like it is an improbability.
So what are the odds of intelligent life arising, even under ideal conditions? It isn't good. But last year there was a estimate that in the Milky Way Galaxy there are 8.8 billion planets that resemble Earth in that their orbital distance from their star doesn't prohibit life, and also have a gravitational mass which does not prohibit life. If I had to bet on it, I would bet on some life in the Milky Way, if only very simple microorganisms. The Milky Way is just one of 100 billion to perhaps 500 billion galaxies, although it is a bit larger than average, so multiply 8,800,000,000 by 100,000,000,000 to 500,000,000,000, and divide that by the average size of galaxies to get Earth-esque planets in the universe (yes, I realize it is not that simple). I am not a biologist, but I would bet that there is at least one other intelligent life form out there in the universe if I had to.
On the other hand, I would bet we will never hear from them or know of their existence, nor will they know of ours. I'm not a physicist, but it looks like the speed of light is the hard limit on how fast anything can travel. It's fast, but given that the Milky Way is over 100,000 light years in diameter, it is still very slow on a cosmic scale. The odds of any life, let alone intelligent life, being within any practical range of radio signals is infinitesimal. We are, for all practical purposes, alone in the universe.