Subsonic filter and x-over are not the same thing. A subsonic filter removes the deepest bass below the capability of the sub so that it doesn't try to reproduce it, thus allowing it to operate more efficiently. Basically the same thing that the x-over does for your mains.
You said you don't really want a plate amp, but my recommendation would seriously be the
A-250 Basic from Rythmik. For the price, it is a heck of an amp. Inexpensive stand alone amps are going to be pretty much impossible.
Yes, you could use one of each channel to power each speaker, but I think you will find your sub will be better served by having more power than what one channel from that amp will really supply. Note also, if your sub is 8 Ohms, that amp is rated for 160w x 2 at 8 Ohms, 230 is for 4 Ohm operation.
Another thought would be to pick up an old used receiver and use that.