Go out and look at the power company's cable splices where the service connects to the cables going to the meter box. If they look like big butt connectors (about 3"-4" long and about 3/4" diameter) and they have been untouched for ten years or more, call the power company and have them inspect their feed, preferably also replacing the splices. These dry out over time and with a lightning strike, I can see how they would fail. They don't use that kind much now and it's because the new type is more reliable. If your neutral is intermittent (the bare third cable), you can have lots of problems, including motors, light bulbs and other equipment failing prematurely and often.
You make a good point the problem may not be in the house. I was asked about a situation by the local artisans about a house on the other side of the lake that was having repeated electrical problems, including repetitive burning out of the well pump motors. The problem cam to light in the winter, and I think was precipitated by increased electrical heating loads. However there had been damage from a lightning strike to that residence in the summer, which I think was the cause.
It was the neutral from the panel, but you could not tell by looking at it.
I had a situation where the voltage was on the low end of normal, and quite often below, causing my UPS units to support voltage. I was also getting excess failures of a Direct TV box downstairs and the roof amps. That unit was not on a UPS then. I checked the AC waveform with my scope, and it had severe crossover and hysteresis distortion. I measured the distortion and it was 23%! The maximum allowable id 5%. I insisted the power company get my service to spec. The transformer serving this house had gone bad, possibly lightning strikes at some time or age. The transformer was replaced, and end of problem
I'm not certain the OP has the right individual. Inspection is not going to cut it. Careful testing and measurement is required here, just looking is not going to cut it.