lol. you're not an idiot at all.
Well... we don't know that. You may be, BUT you're doing the right thing to seek advice.
In my opinion, your current setup is not good. Simply disconnecting the surrounds would be better. However, you may want to try something else first. It looks like your TV & L/C/R are a fair distance out from the wall. Can you move them all back closer to the wall? Then put your surrounds as far out as possible. Maybe you can put them a little closer to your seat than where they are now.
Shady's diagram is right, but it's not set in stone. I have towers for my surrounds and there is also not a place beside or behind our seats for them. I have them on the side and just a bit in front of our seats. Not optimum, but as good as my room geometry allows.
I would experiment with as much separation as possible from the fronts to the surrounds before I gave up.