WAF factor is a tough one.
I own Ascend 340SEs, which are black box and on the ugly side.
I did do a lot of listening.
I have a pair of Classic Threes in the trunk of my car which I am going to try in about an hour. I heard them in a shop and thought they were very good.
In the general price range, here is what I liked: Paradigm 20s, NHT, Usher 520 (400/pair--great value. Look for the V-601. I heard V-602 towers--very good as well), KEF iQ5.
Here's what I didn't like: B & W 602, Vienna Acoustics Haydin, Tannoy, jeez, I can't even remember anymore.
Just a thought: if WAF is really at play, then the wife should have to go with you and help. If she doesn't want to help, then her opinion does not count. Just don't let her near any Bose.
Another thought: the Vandersteen entry level speakers is great, and since it is sealed it can be put in a cabinet.