For $9K, I assume this is an installed price.
Do you already have wiring run, or is it new construction, or is it a retrofit?
I would likely go with the third package.
Not sure I would opt for a touchscreen remote. This is a very poor decision for most people to make based upon my experience. It LOOKS cool, but actual use of a touchscreen absolutely sucks for channel surfing because you really don't get proper tactile feedback for the buttons you are pressing.
For a feel of what that is like, if you have a Smartphone, try to see if their is an app to control your cable box, then try to use it as a remote. You will likely be frustrated within a few minutes. Stick with it, and you will realize that this is NOT the way to go.
Still, your money on that one. They go with the touchscreen because it looks cool, and has a high profit margin.
Not sure on the DragonFly screen. Haven't seen one, but I'm a fan of Carada.
Likewise, similar online companies offer excellent value.
For speakers, I would go with the poke or another 8" 3-way design of some sort.
I've used these in several installations and consider them comparible to other speakers in the similar size range...
http://www.monoprice.com/products/product.asp?c_id=108&cp_id=10837&cs_id=1083703&p_id=6816&seq=1&format=2
For a sub, I would avoid Polk.
How about a couple of these?
http://www.epiksubwoofers.com/legend.html
or these...
http://www.epiksubwoofers.com/dualempire.html
The receiver is alright. Pioneer makes good stuff. I'm a fan of Denon, but I would avoid Onkyo just because of my concerns with overheating and reliability.
The JVC projector is great. I would get that over the Mits for sure.
The $9,000 budget is good. It's a bit tight depending on some pieces of gear and how much installation work is really needed and to what level. I would be sure to ask for a Cheif RPMAU projector mount as you WILL need to futz with the projector at some point and it won't be fun if there is some other mount in place.