Welcome to the nut house! I'm new too, but so far everyone has been super. Now, about setting up that sub.
I've owned four different subs, and they all reveal good and bad recordings. Good being most anything after the 80's. I'm 42, but still listen to Rock music most of the time. From AC/DC to ZZ Top it's all good. And XM channel 42 (squizz) modern rock which is equilized a bit on the bottom end. Even more equilized is XM Sweet 62 (R&B). That channel will drive nails with a sub.
Try a manual setup with your HTR 5960, put away the calibration equipment, and set it up by ear. Set your crossover to 80 hz, and put in a bass heavy cd, like Linkin Park, or some R&B, or rap - whatever blows your skirt up. Turn your sub up as much as you need to have fat bottom end, like it was recorded. Now, put in an old cd lacking bass and see what happens. Your sub may or may not do hardly anything. Try some action DVD's and the explosions should wake up your next door nieghbors.
I'm not trying to start a flame war here, as many would disagree with me and my methods. I turn my sub up as high as I can without loosing midrange and high end. Most of my friends agree with the sound, and some those friends are musicians in bands. Remember, YOU bought the system for YOU, not for a meter.
Stick around here and you'll learn about all kinds of neat equipment, and you'll want to buy more and more and more...