I would have to agree that there are some very tech people that understand how to use components so they are pushing speaker packages etc. on you without talking remotes.
As a Crestron programmer, I see daily the effects a quality remote has on the usability of a system. A well programmed remote will allow you to leave it, without instructions, in the hands of the homeowner and they will be able to watch a DVD, TV, VCR, etc. without any issues or additional explanations.
Bose does not make it so that you avoid the issue of switching inputs between sources, or that by pressing 'VCR' on their remote, that it will handle TV switching, powering on the VCR, or properly controlling the VCR. It just switches the Bose from whatever input it was on, to the VCR input. Just like any other receiver.
This really means you need to focus less on the A/V gear, and much more on the remote. If it is a $1K budget, while the speakers above may be excellent, you may just need to get something less money so you can get a better remote.