I agree that people can and often do make different choices when they have options. Here's my question for you all - would you rather someone stay with you because they love you, or because they don't see a better option, yet? I'd pick the former by a long shot. If a woman were to leave me (or cheat on me) as soon as she got a better offer, then that's not a woman that I'd want around me.
I understand that opportunism is human nature, and cheating is absolutely natural. So are commitment and loyalty, and those are two qualities that I value more.
This is a slippery slope... When you meet someone and you go through the entire thing, meeting, dating, woo'ing, engagement, commitment, ect ect ect that happened because there were no better options, if there was a better option the day you met your wife you may have not met her, or that is all that would have happened.... Or if later on before marriage came a better option came along then maybe it would have ended there... Now if we could only fall in love with one women or man, than yes I agree... BUT you can love a lot of women, I obviously love my wife the most, but who knows if I was given the chance there may be another women out there that I could love more and be happier with....
I see it this way, if you love a person and have a happy life you won't look else where to find someone else, but if something looks for you and puts you with a bunch of options you are more likely to sway from your current situation...
Is this making sense? I don't think I am explaining it rite.. You get together because you are the best option at the time, time goes by, "new" always feels good, the grass is always better manicured and greener on the other side of the fence, ect... So options change....
I am not sure if you ever felt that new touch, I sadly have been tempted by it, we had a friend of ours wife who used to flirt with me something awful, she was older than us BUT she had something about her, a sexual chemical of some sort, that women that should be in front of a camera somewhere but her husband snatched her up before a magazine or hollywood could, I can't put it into words but she was a classy lady with an incredible body, gorgeous features, and an overall flawless figure, plus she was well kept, never had to work, endless clothing budget, manicures, makeup, hair stylist that came to her house, ect...
It started with teasing and laughing when we were all out together {with our spouses} she would grab my arms and make jokes about how she never felt anything so hard, we would all laugh and her husband would say, hes too young for you, you would end up broken, and in the beginning it was just a joke and silly banter... Then one night we were all getting together and my wife said that she sometimes got uncomfortable with it, she said she knew it wasnt me and I explained I don't say a word to encourage it and she is only 8 year s younger than my mom.... Then one day at a party, she cornered me, long story short I got lipstick on my neck. So I have to admit I was excited, she was HOT, and her touch felt electric.... The VERY next day she shows up at my office........ I took her aside and said "I want to be your friend, we drank too much, it got out of hand and it can never happen again" she said she would never leave her husband and never tell anyone" she wanted to have an affair and with me... I wouldn't do it, I asked her to not make it weird and I loved her and her husband but more important my wife... The conversation went on to her telling me Charlie was a cheater when he was younger and he never touched her, bla bla bla, but it ended with her apologizing and we hardly seen each other after that..
I told my wife rite away about the entire situation, she said she used to ask her stuff like "would you share him with me" and "how is he in bed" and my wife would be uncomfortable and just laugh it off... I made a joke out of it and told my wife if any other women asked her questions like that answer with "I will share" and "he is an incredible lover", lol she didn't think it was funny...
