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philh

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Kai said:
We also worked together to "hold the line". There was no...mom said no let's go ask dad...they learned that was a very bad thing to do.

We worked very hard and our efforts have paid off better than we ever imagined...We were also very lucky that our kids responded positively to our discipline...not all kids do despite the parent(s) best efforts.
I've only been in the kids life for the last 5 years. They tried early on to play us against each other, and it immediately back fired. Also didn't help their mom and I must be on the same mental wave length. We don't even have to be in the same city, and we supply the exact same answer. We have always worked together and hold the line, and as a result the kids respect me as their father. We struggle the most with the oldest, for some stupid reason, she has something to prove. Not sure why or to whom, but she's most likely to drive me crazy. They are both really good kids, and we set extremely high standards. The youngest is the one I worry about "not" getting caught. She's extremely intelligent, and learns from her own, and her sister's mistakes. She'll more discretely push the line, and usually back off when caught. The oldest heads towards the line on a flat out run, and even when the rope is yanked, still continues running :( But, she's usually the fastest to be happy again when she understands the boundaries haven't changed.
 
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sjdgpt

Senior Audioholic
furrycute said:
How would they use the bathroom? :confused:
The belts have little holes located in the right places. The metal gets a little rusty over time, but nothing is getting in (or up) that doesn't belong in (or up).


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jmprader

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If I catch my kids doing what I did at their age, they will be under house arrest until age 18 or until the authorities come to release them, whichever is later.

Time outs were effective behavioral modifications until well into middle school. We do have "zip it for five minutes" still. We try to have our our kids determine appropriate punishments for their own aberrant behavior, have done so for years. Usually we get the benefit of hearing about someone else's situation before discussing/establishing appropriate consequences. Our kids are not stupid and we never call them stupid. They sometimes do stupid things and we refer to those things as stupid things to do. Later it becomes humor

One or the other of us big kids lose it sometimes and blows up. Usually the other is there to rescue the kids from the fallout and we are big enough to know how to apologize...really apologize...when our adult behaviors regress.

We do not carry around past transgressions in a garbage can that gets dumped out every "crisis". Divorces are often related to garbage cans that never get emptied, no need to unwittingly set our children up for that miserable event.

We've got a few 18 months before the first of three heads to college and 5.5 more before the youngest heads off. Lots of room to learn if what we are doing works, so far signs point to yes...we know, despite efforts we may have made, we have been pretty lucky.


edit: All of a sudden, I felt like David Byrne asking "How did I get here?" Isn't this the Audioholics forum???
 

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