As of now I do not have a SPL meter but planning on getting one any certain one I need to get?
Next dumb question since I dont have/used a SPL meter do I have to be a certain distance away from each speaker or do I just need to be where I would normally sit and then run the test?
Sorry for all the dumb question Im trying to learn on how to do this because as I have stated before Ive only used the auto calc way.
Here is one SPL meter I would get:
http://www.amazon.com/American-Recorder-Technologies-SPL-8810-Pressure/dp/B000I4ZVHU/ref=pd_cp_e_4
Yeah, just measure where you normally sit - same spot as your primary sitting position - where you place the Mic when you do the automatic calibration on the AVR.
Use C-Weight, Slow Response, Range should be 50-100dB or close to it. Each speaker and subwoofer should be 75dB (c-weight). Your sub can be 78dB if you like it a little HOT.

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When I ran Audyssey automatic room calibration on my Revel Salon 2,
Audyssey set my L/R speaker level each to -4dB, and subwoofer each to -10dB.
I had to increase the L/R channel level manually to -1dB, and subwoofer level to -3dB each.
Audyssey changed my speaker to Large, so I changed it manually to small. I kept the 80Hz. I would keep the crossover @ 80Hz.
For the Center channel, I would increase the level to 76dB-77dB for clearer dialogue.