Lol, I warned you about the room before I posted the pics. I know there are some hardcore audio rules that I am violating. But the thing I have learned about rooms over time is that they all have their own behavior, and sometimes you don't know if something works until you try. Especially if you are stuck with my type of setup

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Sometimes stupid stuff works or isn't as much of a deal breaker as you think, but I know there will always be some limitations if you violate these tenets of audio systems.
So here is the interesting thing: despite how it looks, it does actually sound pretty good. So far, the only setup that I have heard among all friends, family members, and showrooms that beats mine hands down is a system that has been down this rabbit hole to begin with. (Now I also admit I have not heard high-end Focal/B&W, etc. systems till now, but I never ever before thought about purchasing them). Perhaps my reply above to AcuDefTechguy will provide some more perspective.
So I get it, my room setup sucks... the good thing is it's in my house... so I can experiment with things that improve things. There has been a dramatic improvement in bass with the little bit of room treatment experiment and redoing FR+FL Subs Phase alignment with REW + minidsp.
For perspective: If the bass I heard at my cousin's was a 10/10, mine was a 5/10 before and now its a 7/10 where I sit (seat #1) and an 8/10 where my wife sits (Seat #2) with some experimental treatment + EQ changes.
My bass is high, but I'm a bassaholic and like loud clean bass. It is still very clean above 50 Hz and blends well with the system.
My RT60 times really shoot up below 60-70 Hz and I have always felt my low end (below 50 Hz-ish) is a bit boomy. I'm not sure if that high level is because I am playing my subs too loud (which then it should be up to 150 Hz which is the crossover) or because of the room and me sitting next to the wall or because there is high floor noise in measurements.
Another unconventional thing that worked for me was setting the crossover at 150 Hz. I reached this number by testing many different configurations in REW, and this looked the best and ended up sounding the best after I tried them all. So even though it’s an unusually high number, in the end it sounds really good on this system in this room. My feeling is that it’s either my bookshelves can’t produce enough bass to fill the room below 150 Hz, or their positioning next to the wall/ceiling is causing a lot of SBIR. Regardless, it works, so I stuck with it.