Interesting question. But as you should know, there are a million different answers to it since every woman is different.
I love my HT setup & the sound is the most important factor to me. Not that everything should match, be small/hidden & unobtrusive. But then I grew up surrounded by music so that plays a large part in my choices.
I knew as I matured that I HAD to HAVE a decent stereo system. So once I started working I started putting one together until I have what I have now.
None of it matches, it is not especially pretty, but it is neat & organized. And most importantly sounds terrifc!!!
While my brothers' former girlfreind appreciated the sound of it, she didn't like the decor and said she would NEVER be able to have it look like that. But then again, until I introduced her to some REAL speakers by Polk, she thought Bose was the be all to end all!
But if given a choice between Polk & Bose or any other full size speakers, she will take the Bose cause they are nice & small. And she cares more about the looks then the sound.
Cathy