Thanks Alex, you were able to answer more than I was anticipating. The most important features for me are definitely RC and other related post processing. VP I do not care about, unless it was a true color mgmt system, which we won't ever see in a receiver, not in my lifetime, and they shouldn't do that anyway.
It is not easy for me to find out which Onkyo receivers are Pro capable. The Audyssey site does not have a filter for it that I can easily find, which doesn't surprise me, as well it's for "pros".
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Thanks for allowing me that liberty, ahblaza.
When you ask about Dyn vol/eq, well, I tried looking through the OP, and I looked quickly at your profile, I can't see immediately what receiver you're using, but if you happen to have Dolby Volume, I would try that first, and the reason for that is because some years ago M Code here said it was the better tech for this application, in this regard, and whatever he says I pretty much take as fact.
Also: regarding distance, even TLS Guy said the distance function of Audyssey works well, and he's one of the detractors of this tech, so take that FWIW.