This sounds like fun, you have an awesome budget,
As far as the projector and screen go, I dont know much about that part, but a lot of guys on here do so you will be in good hands there...
I do know I wouldn't buy a blu ray player, I use PS3, and you forgot your remote... I just got a harmony, expensive but makes it all worth it...
OK, I am hooked on separates, I don't like using AVR amp sections, some people say, "it makes no difference" , but that's because they don't have them

, I notice a big difference, between powering with my avr and with my amps...
So start with the amp-
Emotiva is a great company for power, I have owned, {and still have some} BK, ati, carver, ect and Emotiva sounds the same if not better than most for 1/4 the price...
I played with these at their show room, amazing piece of equipment...
XPR-5 | 400W x 5 | Emotiva Audio | High-end audio components for audiophiles and videophiles, spanning 2-channel music systems, as well as 5.1 and 7.1 home theaters. Products include multichannel amplifiers, stereo amplifiers, and monoblock amplifier
So there is your power now for speakers...
Now from your description you sound like you watch the same stuff we watch... And I am a "listener" I have listened to so many systems I couldn't begin to put a number on how many... But there were a few that impressed me... 1 that sticks out for the ultimate theater setup, IMO... Is the Wharfedale Jade line... This stuff is new, and you get a lot for your money, if you dont mind the size, you will be impressed, they are STRONG, which makes every sound they make seem less than effortless...
With the jade 7 towers, surrounds, and c2 center {all linked below} it will cost under $7000, if you go down to the 5 towers and 1 center you can shave off around $1400, I have heard it both ways, and I would go with the 7 towers, jade surrounds, and 1 center, save around $300...
WHARFEDALE JADE 7 TOWER SPEAKERS (PR) at Music Direct
WHARFEDALE JADE C2 CENTER CHANNEL SPEAKER (EA) at Music Direct
http://www.musicdirect.com/p-53476-wharfedale-jade-sr-surround-speakers-pr.aspx
Then next is subs... HSU vtf15 dual drive- $2000
VTF-15H DualDrive Package
or uls15 dual drive
ULS-15 DualDrive Packages
either way you can not go wrong...
So I would get the jades- $6500 {approx, you can probably find cheaper, or call and work a price}
Emotiva XPR5 $2000
HSU vtf15 dual drive $2000
and for a receiver I would just pick something with audysseey and preouts, $600 or so... Personally I would get a 709 from acc 4 less for $450...
So for the audio portion you would be around $11000... Do your self a favor and take a listen to the Jades, they dont get much coverage in the US, but a very nice product, I have the US reps number, if you are interested...
PS I have heard the Def tech towers Pnot the entire set, and the Klipsch set, and IMO they arent in the same league as the jades..
Also the Opus line can be found for good prices, but the jades are even nice, I have heard them all... Opus, is nice for music the opus 2-3s were some of the nicest musical towers Ive heard {with no sub needed}
Oh yeah and welcome, we are going to need pics of this when its all done, we are used to "what 9.2 system can I build for $300?" threads, you have a good budget, I dont think I spent that on my theater, 2.2, hi eff. tube system, PC system combined, and bathroom remodel, jk, lol..