...and if you can't return it, I think it's important to keep things in perspective:
Bose is the brand we all love to hate.
It's not that Bose flat-out sucks or is worse than the bargain brands you can find on the cheap. It's closer to the mid range. It's just that Bose markets aggressively with a lot of hype, and sells their products at inflated prices because they can. And they don't give out specs because they like to play the shell game on what you're getting. But in the end, the products they make aren't bad, and their subs can do justice, but they're not high end. Of course, a true high end sub would be over a thousand dollars just for entry - which is why we make our own.
My neighbor bought a cheap-azz subwoofer at a discount store, and I can hear that p.o.s. anytime he's watching a movie becuase it has a HUGE hump at around 50Hz and not much below that. The result is that every explosion, every gunshot, every soundtrack baseline, every jet - sounds EXACTLY the same: an amplified fart!
So if your Bose sub can get down just above the last octave, you're not doing too bad at all. As someone else in the forums pointed out recently, the lowest note on a bass guitar is 42Hz, so you have the span of most music people listen to. As for the specialized eq, you can pick up a used single channel 1/3 octave eq on the cheap and tweak in the response. It may not be a perfect match for Bose's proprietary correction, but I find it very hard to believe that you can't come very close.
I'd start by cutting off all frequencies below 30Hz for starters until you can carefully test the lower range ability of the sub with a bass test CD at low volume.