.....MatthewB, isn't sex usually down the list with a woman?....I think firstly, they need to feel supported by their man, and especially need to feel "loved" by him and I'm talking the love be real....you should want to take her with you whenever possible, like to the beach even in cooler weather when you can't swim, just to walk and talk and explore together....with a sense of support and "real" love for her truly in place, I suspect all things are possible, even in this day and time.....
.....kids for a looooooong time have thought, whether they realized it or not at the time, "if the sex is great, and she looks pretty good, we'll work the rest out"....I'm probably about to draw laughter, but I believe a guy would be better off, if he only small-kissed a woman until he asked her to marry him....he'd have based his decision on the person, not sex with the person....then, hopefully both would agree to a wedding asap, if you know what I mean.....