"How far are you along?" ............... "I'm not pregnant..."

[DaveHo]

You might get a phone call from her husband. He'll probably be thanking you for saving him from having to tell her she's fat.

 

[tattoo_Dan]

So how was I supposed to know? A co-worker of mine, who took a leave for about a year to travel with her husband, recently joined again. She has what looks like a pot-belly. She was skinny (or reasonably fit) when she left in early 2008.

Anyways, a bunch of us were having a conversation when she came by. Myself being the enthusiastic guy that I am asked with a smile: "So, how far along are you?" A hush fell over. Everyone stopped talking. I immediately thought that I must've asked a very common/stupid question - that everyone knew how far along the pregnancy she was in except for myself.

She simply said "I'm not pregnant", looked disgusted and left. I couldn't even get the words "I'm sorry" out and I was stunned when it finally hit me.

How the hell was I supposed to know?

I stopped commenting or asking that a very long time ago for that very reason.

 

[Pyrrho]

You might get a phone call from her husband. He'll probably be thanking you for saving him from having to tell her she's fat.

I very much doubt that. People who are fat typically have mirrors just like everyone else, and they typically also have noticed that their old clothes no longer fit them. People don't generally need to be told that they are fat, as it will be something that is probably more obvious to them than to anyone else.

 

[Bluesmoke]

I saw her again this morning. Went to her to say sorry, and I was cut off by "F%& Off!"

Whatever *itch! I was real tempted to yell out: "How about you give me your old clothes so I can donate them to Goodwill".

I wonder if gaining weight also turns people into A-holes!

 

[jonnythan]

I saw her again this morning. Went to her to say sorry, and I was cut off by "F%& Off!"

Whatever *itch! I was real tempted to yell out: "How about you give me your old clothes so I can donate them to Goodwill".

I wonder if gaining weight also turns people into A-holes!

Gaining weight doesn't turn people into ********.

Being really, really rude to them does.

 

[billy p]

I had the unfortunate experience of putting my foot in my mouth! It happened at work and we were both on an elevator, when I suddenly uttered those exact words. Needless to say the door couldn't open up fast enough to let me out and I've never made that mistake since.

 

[mike c]

lol. she'll forgive you - after her diet and serious exercising has ended - she's just really pushing herself now.



i didn't realize i was fat until people i haven't seen for awhile (10 out of 10) all said i was getting fat.

i thought my pants were shrinking. (i don't have a dryer)

anyway - i have 36 pounds to shed to become "normal". just the other day i was bordering "obese" on the BMI.

 

[Alex2507]

I saw her again this morning. Went to her to say sorry, and I was cut off by "F%& Off!"

Obviously she's sexually attracted to you.
Give her your number!

 

[jamie2112]

Obviously she's sexually attracted to you.
Give her your number!

I am on the floor barely able to type...hehehehehehe

 

[tattoo_Dan]

I saw her again this morning. Went to her to say sorry, and I was cut off by "F%& Off!"

Whatever *itch! I was real tempted to yell out: "How about you give me your old clothes so I can donate them to Goodwill".

I wonder if gaining weight also turns people into A-holes!

well she sounds like a total *** ! then just blow her off and move on !

if you do say you're sorry,tell her "I didn't realize you had a weight problem". LOL

 

[Pyrrho]

What is rather disturbing is how many people think it is okay to rudely make remarks about other people's appearances. If she had said to you, I am so sorry about your accident; does the plastic surgeon think your face will ever look normal?, how would you react? When commenting on her belly, you are being rude in a like manner. Basically, if you think someone is fat, fine, but you need not say anything, just as other people need not say that you are ugly and stupid. It does not matter whether you are ugly and stupid or not, or whether she is fat or not, saying it is simply rude (except in special circumstances, as one's doctor should comment on aspects of one's health, whether it is a damaged face or excess fat).

 

[Alex2507]

What???

I thought we were talking about mistakes we have made. We made our apologies and learned to

Sometimes mistakes are funny. Nobody is condoning rude and insulting behavior. Are they?

 

[Midcow2]

What is rather disturbing is how many people think it is okay to rudely make remarks about other people's appearances. If she had said to you, I am so sorry about your accident; does the plastic surgeon think your face will ever look normal?, how would you react? When commenting on her belly, you are being rude in a like manner. Basically, if you think someone is fat, fine, but you need not say anything, just as other people need not say that you are ugly and stupid. It does not matter whether you are ugly and stupid or not, or whether she is fat or not, saying it is simply rude (except in special circumstances, as one's doctor should comment on aspects of one's health, whether it is a damaged face or excess fat).

You mean like "Man you HT system sucks!. It sounds terrible. That is a cheap receiver and you speakers are tinny" **JOKE**

Actually, Pyrrho I completely agree with you. And on the other end of the spectrum it is also disturbing when people, sometimes complete strangers, come up to a truly pregnant woman and pat her stomach and say 'congratulations'. They mean well, but it crosses into a person's personal space.

Peace

MidCow2

 

[Pyrrho]

What???

I thought we were talking about mistakes we have made. We made our apologies and learned to

Sometimes mistakes are funny. Nobody is condoning rude and insulting behavior. Are they?

You need to reread the thread more carefully, as some are. You will not only want to look at how many people posted such things, but also those who "thanked" them for it.

 

[Pyrrho]

You mean like "Man you HT system sucks!. It sounds terrible. That is a cheap receiver and you speakers are tinny" **JOKE**

Actually, Pyrrho I completely agree with you. And on the other end of the spectrum it is also disturbing when people, sometimes complete strangers, come up to a truly pregnant woman and pat her stomach and say 'congratulations'. They mean well, but it crosses into a person's personal space.

Peace

MidCow2

That is even more rude, touching a stranger without permission. And yes, walking into someone's home and telling them that their system sucks is rude. Unless, of course, they ask for it, but even then one would probably want to avoid the word "sucks". Usually, if someone is impressed with your system, they will comment on it, so if one doesn't want someone to say their system isn't very good, they will be well advised not to ask for opinions when the person hasn't said anything about it.

 

[billy p]

Another thing I've learned besides never to assume, is LIE if you must. Like when the SO asks you if that dress is to tight or do I look fat! Believe me you'll be much happier and better off in the long run.

 

[Alex2507]

touching a stranger without permission.

What if it's a crowded subway and you're not sure if it's a guy or a girl?

the SO asks you if that dress is too tight

You ask for a price list.

 

[Pyrrho]

Another thing I've learned besides never to assume, is LIE if you must. Like when the SO asks you if that dress is to tight or do I look fat! Believe me you'll be much happier and better off in the long run.

That depends upon the relationship and who we are talking about. With me, if my wife asks, I tell her the truth, because that is what she wants to hear, and that is also the kind of relationship I want. In my case, however, this isn't an issue anyway, because my wife isn't fat and has a great body. But if she got fat, she wouldn't be asking me in private about how she looked in some clothing unless she wanted to know my actual opinion.

 

[Pyrrho]

What if it's a crowded subway and you're not sure if it's a guy or a girl?



...

Are you saying that you grope people on the subway to find out if they are male or female? Aside from being rude, that can get you arrested, so I strongly recommend that you avoid it.

If you mean, that one will occasionally accidentally come in contact with others on a crowded subway, of course that may happen, but then we are not talking about choosing to touch people, but simply being in an unavoidable situation if one needs to ride the subway at a busy time. But them being male or female has nothing to do with this, and the contact in such cases should be as little as reasonably possible.

 

[billy p]

That depends upon the relationship and who we are talking about. With me, if my wife asks, I tell her the truth, because that is what she wants to hear, and that is also the kind of relationship I want. In my case, however, this isn't an issue anyway, because my wife isn't fat and has a great body. But if she got fat, she wouldn't be asking me in private about how she looked in some clothing unless she wanted to know my actual opinion.

It was meant in a tongue-n-cheek sort of way. Even if your relationship is soild, it really depends on how you say it. Answer her in a fun loving way she'll laugh it off, say it like you intended it, than its war.

Regards, Bill