I know this ain't gonna be much help. But I'm controlling my Spacer switches with a Pronto Pro remote system. The IR repeater is located in my component rack that is across the hall from the wall plates. It's only about 8 feet away. But I know I can even switch the Pronto from RF to IR and bounce the signal around the room to the switches.
Can you change out the IR emitter on the sending unit to a mega IR-LED emitter or array bar? They make some huge IR-LED arrays for infrared camera systems. You just need something to beam across a small space. Something like the Wii sensor bar or LED strip light is what I'm thinking about.
You can buy all of the components and build one fairly easily. You only need to know what IR frequency the Spacer system uses and buy the right LED's. There's a couple different kinds.
http://www.superbrightleds.com/index.htm
http://www.theledlight.com/index.html
http://www.sld.co.uk/products/cctv/IR/infrared.htm
This company sells some panel and flat mount emitters:
http://www.ledtronics.com/ds/SML10IR941T/
One last thing, make sure you buy a narrow angle beam instead of the wide angle ones and you may be able to point it directly across the room. Most remote control LEDs are standard wide angle emitters.