It seems like people are split between "more power = cleaner sound" and "power doesn't matter"
Everyone is correct so far and so is the salesman but as usual there are subtleties.
- The salesman recommended a higher power amp than the speaker's recommendation because the higher power amp will be operating in its linear range and not stressing at all. An underpowered amp will be working overtime and may clip, distorting the waveform and possibly damaging the tweeters. Many people simplify this to 'more power is better than less' but you can blow the speakers just as easily by sending them far more power than they can handle. Usually speakers are very conservatively rated so 100 wpc max isn't necessarily a hard and fast absolute top end.
- It's true that an 80 wpc receiver/amp will be able to drive the speakers to ear-splitting levels. The vast majority of the time, the receiver will be putting out only a few watts, but you need headroom to be able to reproduce the peaks which can require 10x the power, if only for a fraction of a second. A larger amp will not struggle with that requirement.
- 'More power == better sound' only applies in the case where you are playing things very loud and the amp can deal with the reserve power requirements for peaks. A 200 wpc amp will also be delivering very few watts the majority of the time which is why Adam says that at 'normal' listening levels there isn't any sound quality difference but he does notice it at higher levels. So again...it's the transients and the higher listening level where an external amp can add some value.
The simplistic analogy I use all the time is your car engine. It can handle 3000 RPM for hundreds or thousands of miles on a long distance trip on a continuous basis but how long can you rev it on the red line? A receiver with shared power supply is working its butt off at high levels (revving on the red line) while the external amp is just cruising.
Do you absolutely
need a high power external amp? No, but it can still be useful. I haven't owned one for many, many years and don't feel the need to ever buy one again. Put it this way, my lowly Onkyo 502 is calibrated to reference level and it does show some signs of strain at those levels...but my ears can't deal with that level anyway.